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Can someone please explain to me what happens to your friendship circle as you go through life ?

I'm 21 in my final year at uni and I left school during sixth form and I left my friends as they were in school. We were a very tight group. Since I went college I left them and out of 6 I only talk to like 2 on a regular. Same with college I met so many cool people and I've left for uni so only see like 2 people.

At uni now I have a good circle of friends but we don't talk much out of uni, we talk on the phone but it's hard since people have uni work and part time jobs.

Anyway for the weekends I only hang with like 2 people not together. Just like for a chat which is nice but it's one on one.

But like I said others are working so it's hard to hang out. But is this normal I talk to like 2 people? As you grow up people get busy.

So what happens when I start working, do I see the lads less and less. Is it part of growing up? Losing friends?

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Yeah it is part of growing up unfortunately. Most people move to new places at least once in their lifetime so they learn how to "replenish" their social circles.

Or, you could've been me and not had any friends itfp.
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Original post by shawn_o1
Yeah it is part of growing up unfortunately. Most people move to new places at least once in their lifetime so they learn how to "replenish" their social circles.

Or, you could've been me and not had any friends itfp.


what's 'itfp'
in the first place
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Original post by shawn_o1
in the first place


Why didnt you have any friends. If you dont mind me asking ?
^ couldn't maintain them. Not to mention being a "naughty kid" when I was younger (autism diagnosis calmed me down), at the same time I got obsessed with video games. So yeah, no time for human contact except with my family (and I only really bonded with my mother).

It's hard for me to interact with any stranger face-to-face, I think my main problem is, I wind people up and I never know why.
I once heard that joining a club like karate, chess, movies whatever you like can help you add to your circle. Just an excuse to be around new people and do stuff.
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Original post by Anonymous
I once heard that joining a club like karate, chess, movies whatever you like can help you add to your circle. Just an excuse to be around new people and do stuff.


I wouldn't join a club like that just for the sake of making friends.

I suppose you make friends at work. But having a decent girlfriend would make all the difference. At least you have someone.

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Original post by IMBCFC
Can someone please explain to me what happens to your friendship circle as you go through life ?

I'm 21 in my final year at uni and I left school during sixth form and I left my friends as they were in school. We were a very tight group. Since I went college I left them and out of 6 I only talk to like 2 on a regular. Same with college I met so many cool people and I've left for uni so only see like 2 people.

At uni now I have a good circle of friends but we don't talk much out of uni, we talk on the phone but it's hard since people have uni work and part time jobs.

Anyway for the weekends I only hang with like 2 people not together. Just like for a chat which is nice but it's one on one.

But like I said others are working so it's hard to hang out. But is this normal I talk to like 2 people? As you grow up people get busy.

So what happens when I start working, do I see the lads less and less. Is it part of growing up? Losing friends?

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Women tend to hang onto their old friends, men tend to just make new friends whenever they move.

I have like one old friend that I'm still in touch with semi-regularly. We see each other roughly once a year, and speak on facebook maybe once every few months. All the other guys I hang around with live in the same city and are people I've met in the last few years.
Original post by IMBCFC
I wouldn't join a club like that just for the sake of making friends.


WTF. Why on earth not?
At sixth form, I had three best friends. I only see them occasionally because two of them have moved miles away, and the other one works stupid hours that clash with my stupid hours. I made three close friends at uni, and we meet up as much as possible, but by the time our schedules have a free day at the same time, it works out as once every few months.

So yeah, it is sad the way things work out, but life takes over and other things start to become more important. I am currently in the process of trying very hard to change my working hours so that I can see my friends more, because I just feel as though I never ever see them.
Original post by cole-slaw
WTF. Why on earth not?


Because you join a club to stay fit or whatever that's why there called football clubs and not make a friend club. Secondly you won't be doing the club any favours if your just chatting away and not contributing.

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Original post by xoxAngel_Kxox
At sixth form, I had three best friends. I only see them occasionally because two of them have moved miles away, and the other one works stupid hours that clash with my stupid hours. I made three close friends at uni, and we meet up as much as possible, but by the time our schedules have a free day at the same time, it works out as once every few months.

So yeah, it is sad the way things work out, but life takes over and other things start to become more important. I am currently in the process of trying very hard to change my working hours so that I can see my friends more, because I just feel as though I never ever see them.


What about at work don't you make friends there ?

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Original post by IMBCFC
What about at work don't you make friends there ?

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Nope, as I'm self employed & work from home as a freelance writer/editor/proofreader.
Original post by xoxAngel_Kxox
Nope, as I'm self employed & work from home as a freelance writer/editor/proofreader.


Well im hoping to get into a job such as law enforcement which will have lots of people there. If I get in. But do you have a partner I suppose having the connection with someone that will always be there will help ? At least thats what I keep thinking.....
Original post by IMBCFC
Can someone please explain to me what happens to your friendship circle as you go through life ?

I'm 21 in my final year at uni and I left school during sixth form and I left my friends as they were in school. We were a very tight group. Since I went college I left them and out of 6 I only talk to like 2 on a regular. Same with college I met so many cool people and I've left for uni so only see like 2 people.

At uni now I have a good circle of friends but we don't talk much out of uni, we talk on the phone but it's hard since people have uni work and part time jobs.

Anyway for the weekends I only hang with like 2 people not together. Just like for a chat which is nice but it's one on one.

But like I said others are working so it's hard to hang out. But is this normal I talk to like 2 people? As you grow up people get busy.

So what happens when I start working, do I see the lads less and less. Is it part of growing up? Losing friends?

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Hmm.... I guess it can be,but apparently the average person has what 4/5 peoplein their friendship circle. It's not a lot, is it?

BUT, it means you get to know each other better, and stuff like that really.

Tbh, I dont talk to as many of my former school friends, and hardly any of my college friends (Not necessarily for not wanting to try, but because of not keeping in touch) etc...

Original post by shawn_o1
Yeah it is part of growing up unfortunately. Most people move to new places at least once in their lifetime so they learn how to "replenish" their social circles.

Or, you could've been me and not had any friends itfp.


This is a alittle saddening :frown: Im sure you HAVE friends? Likeyou talk to the same people on a regular basis, right? Ill be your fwend lol. TSR fwends!!
Original post by IMBCFC
Because you join a club to stay fit or whatever that's why there called football clubs and not make a friend club. Secondly you won't be doing the club any favours if your just chatting away and not contributing.

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well obviously find a club where you are interested in the activity as well. I'm sure you must have some hobbies.
Original post by IMBCFC
Well im hoping to get into a job such as law enforcement which will have lots of people there. If I get in. But do you have a partner I suppose having the connection with someone that will always be there will help ? At least thats what I keep thinking.....


Yeah I have a boyfriend, been together 5 years & he's amazing :smile:. But I still wish I could see my friends more!
Original post by xoxAngel_Kxox
Yeah I have a boyfriend, been together 5 years & he's amazing :smile:. But I still wish I could see my friends more!


But dosent your boyfriend being there help? I mean you can socialise with him ect?

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Original post by IMBCFC
But dosent your boyfriend being there help? I mean you can socialise with him ect?

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Yeah I know I'm lucky to have him there. We do go out together, out for meals, or lunch, or on days out etc. But then it's also good to have someone to talk to who you're not in a relationship with, because when I need relationship advice, I can't really go to him! i.e. when we argue etc it's good to have a friend who you could turn to.

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