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am i depressed

hello everyone, you may have read my story about the lottery and chocolate cookies which i have become addicted to. i am addicted to the cookies because I'm comfort eating, i know it is very unhealthy for me but everyday without fail i will buy 10-15 large cookies in tecso/sainsburys and eat the all. I've put on a stone since coming to uni. i do this mainly because i have no one to talk to. i have no friends from secondary school and have nade no friends st uni because i am a bit of a hermit and don't like going out to pubs or bars, i worked sop hard to get to this university i am at now but its clear that even my tutors think i am stupid. i could tell by the way they spoke to me. here i am on a friday night typing away at a computer wham everyone else is out having a good time. why do i have no friends? am in my first year of uni and I've never been kissed, asked out or even spoken to outside of school. i used to be good at academic work, i goth A*AAA in my a levels but now i am thick at uni and am struggling to write one essay let alone the seven I've been given to do by christmas.
i never even p[layed the lottery or ate a cookie before coming to university
Youre not alone sitting alone. My Mum is out drinking with friends from wor, younger sister is upstairs watching stuff in bed, my bigger bro is in kitchen with his friend and im in living room alone on Laptop on TSR and got a WWE stream on :smile:

You need to be brave, take risks. My year leader says at uni and in life you have to be brave and dare to do. Try as much as possible to be positive. Simply ask someone doing your degree how they are coping. Already you have a topic. Then move on to where they are living, before you know it you may be in the group of friends. Most people at uni are happy to talk to anyone and make many friends.

Comfort eating is usually to take your mind off problems you have. There are strong link between being depressed and comfort eating. I WOULD NOT say you are depressed because it isnt diagnosed and its a mental illness.

Take my advice and see the positive in EVERYTHING. Last year I started A Levels had was depressed for the full year and pulled through. This second year, Im heading to uni and i am the opposite of last year. Talk to you parents and seek help from your Uni help services.
Thank you very much for your advice, ill try to see more positive in everything but it doesn't rely work when you've got nothing to see or anyone to talk to. The majority of the people here are so far up themselves they don't even look at me let alone speak to me. Its so scary here, just the other day a person tried to kill themselves to outside my room (thankfully college welfare stopped them in time and persuaded them not to).

My advise to anyone is think in sixth form especially at state schools is to think very carefully before choosing their uni. I put far too much emphasis on the "prestige" of the uni when deciding which one Ill go too and it was such a big mistake as I didn't consider that with such prestige comes snobbery and isolation.
Looking back at the big picture i have spent 7 hours tonight buying the lottery tickets, refreshing lotto website and posting disgruntled comments on the daily mail website because i did not win 150 million. meanwhile, myh neighbours are either doing their work or more likely partying on a friday night.

I spent £20 in Tecso and £2 in Sainsburys on the tickets. the ticket bought from sainsburies won me 5.90
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Dont get into gambling. Youre getting onto real bad territory. If you keep going like this you WILL be depressed, you WILL have eating problems, you PROBABLY will have weight and hence confidence issues and you PROBABLY will become a gamble addict.

My uncle is one, and spent a couple grand which was for his honeymoon with my aunt all on betting. Theres just no use in gambling for the thrill you think it gets.
Original post by heavyhandscott
Dont get into gambling. Youre getting onto real bad territory. If you keep going like this you WILL be depressed, you WILL have eating problems, you PROBABLY will have weight and hence confidence issues and you PROBABLY will become a gamble addict.

My uncle is one, and spent a couple grand which was for his honeymoon with my aunt all on betting. Theres just no use in gambling for the thrill you think it gets.


I won't buy anymore tickets, I just thought that if i won some of the people here would talk to me. My uni is so snobbish it is unreal.
What Uni are you in? Im just curious. The best will probably be 90% slobs and snobs from really posh schools then theres the couple normal people who shine at A-Level in normal school who make it there.

Newcastle is the best Uni here but im not going to apply for it as i dont do the correct subjects for biology.
Original post by heavyhandscott
What Uni are you in? Im just curious. The best will probably be 90% slobs and snobs from really posh schools then theres the couple normal people who shine at A-Level in normal school who make it there.

Newcastle is the best Uni here but im not going to apply for it as i dont do the correct subjects for biology.


I'm certainly in that 10%! I'm from Newcastle's neighbouring uni, the one where everyone is a bitter Oxbridge reject who were "over prepared for their interview" from a private school. I'd say not even Oxbridge was as snobby...

I've probably given the impression that I'm an idiot from my posts tonight, I'm not normally like this, I'm just feeling so isolated here that I'm being driven to madness! I've never bought a lottery ticket before in my life before tonight.
You go to Northumbria? I live in Newcastle. Im off to the open day tomorrow.
Original post by heavyhandscott
You go to Northumbria? I live in Newcastle. Im off to the open day tomorrow.


No, I wish i did! I'm at Durham.
My mate goes to Durham, she's awesome, but had a really hard time settling in to start with. Didn't make many friends the first few months because her boyf (now ex) came up and she didn't socialise.
She agrees with the snobbyness but you just have to find the right people. There are normal friendly people around just make the effort to find them. I'm not sure how, I don't really know what uni people do?! Go to student union and all events and ****? I visited my mate and we were just walking along the street and met a guy and befriended him. (Alcohol helps)
Good luck

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Original post by FreshGarbage
My mate goes to Durham, she's awesome, but had a really hard time settling in to start with. Didn't make many friends the first few months because her boyf (now ex) came up and she didn't socialise.
She agrees with the snobbyness but you just have to find the right people. There are normal friendly people around just make the effort to find them. I'm not sure how, I don't really know what uni people do?! Go to student union and all events and ****? I visited my mate and we were just walking along the street and met a guy and befriended him. (Alcohol helps)
Good luck

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Thank you for the advice, i'll try my best to socialise more but I'm not too keen on alcohol. Seriously the snobbery here is unreal, people have talked down to me as if I'm some kind of foreign creature compared to them. The people in my seminar class so impolite, they just walk past me as if I'm not there.
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OK, that's me not going to Durham.
Original post by JoshZ
OK, that's me not going to Durham.


Seriously consider elsewhere, I came here for the prestige mainly and it's been the worst decision of my life. Workload is so intense, people look down on you if you come from a state school and it is so isolating. I really wish I went to a uni with more students from schools like the one I went to rather than ones where 'my darling mummy paid £20,000 a year for my fees'.
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Original post by DailyMailIsALiar
Seriously consider elsewhere, I came here for the prestige mainly and it's been the worst decision of my life. Workload is so intense, people look down on you if you come from a state school and it is so isolating. I really wish I went to a uni with more students from schools like the one I went to rather than ones where 'my darling mummy paid £20,000 a year for my fees'.

Durham sounds like the worst of a bad bunch, those who were unable to get into Oxford/Cambridge but are just as snobby :/.
Original post by JoshZ
Durham sounds like the worst of a bad bunch, those who were unable to get into Oxford/Cambridge but are just as snobby :/.


I'd say they were more snobby than Oxbridge students as at least Oxbridge students got in. Here everyone is so bitter about their rejection, they always go on about how 'the ststem was unfair as they were over prepared for their interview' and half the people from my course have actually reapplied to Oxbridge!

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