Hiya, I can completely agree. As we speak my brother is screaming his head off. He's 12 and had a complete dual personality. At school he acts so perfectly and gets on well with teachers and works hard, but when he gets home it's a different story. My dad had horrendous anger issues and would throw things like baby high chairs, toys, fruit etc at my mum and punch holes in walls until one night it was the worst. He got so drunk and I genuinely feared for my mums life, he shoved her and bruised all of her back and arm, at that point we had to get out so we ran to a familys house and called the police. It seems like my brother inherited his anger and is now threatening to kill all of us, he says it so much now it seems that phrase has because a part of his vocabulary. 2 weeks ago he physically assaulted me for the first time and punched me in the stomach after we were bickering. And tonight he has shoved my nan to the floor and threatened to knock her teeth out. He verbally assaults us calling me spotty, fat, ugly, worthless on repeat as well as other disgusting things to my family such as my nan, my mum and sister. But when my brother is in my dads presence he won't even dare to raise his voice. It is just a matter of time until he snaps and does something unthinkable, he will end up in jail when he's old enough if he keeps going this way. I completely feel for you and understand where you're coming from. It is never acceptable NO MATTER HOW ANGRY THEY ARE, it is not said out of anger! Threats to take a life is never just something said when you're angry. When normal people get angry or frustrated we usually storm out or say we don't want to see that person again, death threats is far from that. As he's 12 I don't feel like I could contact the police as there would be no punishment for someone his age other than a talking too, however when he reaches 15 and a similar situation occurs I will be audio recording it and contacting police. Just because someone is family doesn't mean they have to be in your life, a toxic family member is no family member. A stranger, I'm not going to hesitate to cut him from my life. He brings me immense misery, I am studying tirelessly to get the best grades and train to be an architect and i don't get recognition for my work because everyone is always worrying about my siblings and what they're not doing. Once I have a stable job hopefully in a few years and can move out and head to uni, I will have no contact with him. What was said is utterly disgusting and shameful.