How to deal with passive aggressive people?

Be nice to them, don't give them a reason to be passive-aggressive.

Call them out on it, the passive-aggressive abhors all out confrontation.

Call them out on it, the passive-aggressive abhors all out confrontation.

This is actually the truth.


It's passive because they don't have the courage to confront you directly.



So

Wait until they clearly behaving in a manner which is passive-aggressive and there are members of your social circle around, then point out this behaviour and the fact that this is part of a pattern of behaviours rather than an isolated incident and ask them what the reason for this is.

They would be passive-aggressive, if they didn't have reasons of sorts. even though the reason/s is/are not valid enough for them to simple confront you with the issue/s.

What would you do in that case?

I would say "I'm getting some weird vibes here, why are you being all mr passive aggressive? have I annoyed you or something?"

and if they say "I'm not"

say "then why are you flicking yoghurt at me?" or whatever

don't get angry, just try to find out what's bothering them and if necessary apologise. If there is nothing to apologise for, just politely ask them not to be such a dick. Try and do it with a smile on your face like its no big deal and you almost find it kinda funny.

If you do this in front of people, you will look calm and reasonable, they will look childish and petty.

Put some laxatives in their tea.

How to Spot and Deal With Passive-Aggressive People

Most chronically passive-aggressive individuals have four common characteristics:

They’re unreasonable to deal with.
They’re uncomfortable to experience.
They rarely express their hostility directly.
They repeat their subterfuge behavior over time.

Dealing with passive aggressive people:

1. Don’t Overreact. Reduce Personalization and Misunderstanding.

2. Keep Your Distance Whenever Possible.

3. Don’t Try to Change Them.

4. Don’t Get Sucked In. Avoid Tit for Tat.

5. In Relatively Mild Situations, Display Superior Composure Through Appropriate Humor.

6. In Serious Situations, Proactively Deal with the Problem Early On and Formalize Your Communication.

7. Give the Passive-Aggressive a Chance to Help Solve the Problem, If Appropriate.

8. Set Consequences to Lower Resistance and Compel Cooperation.

They sound like a complete ass. I hope I never come off like that lol.

My GP is like that. He's always huffing and sighing and rolling his eyes. A total pain.

Hit them. Depending on your strength and technique, you'll either shut them up or have something coming back at you.

PS, haven't done this so follow it at your own discretion.

Well I would to hit them as hard as I can, but, not in physical sense.

Needs more thinking time.

Hey, you look like a person in a position of power, how do I change 1 word from the title of this thread?

you should tell him about his condition...

Edit the OP I think