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"Bye Fellipe" exposes inherent cultural misogyny men posses in online dating

Link , daily mail :

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2816280/Brutally-honest-Instagram-account-reveals-women-s-online-dating-horror-stories.html

'Guy hits on girl , girl doesn't respond , guy lashes out with an insulting message. It really shows the entitlement these guys feel , and I think it shows our cultural misogyny problem"

Thoughts ?

I myself will readily admit that these types of responses from men are quite disgusting and bitter , but a sign of cultural misogyny ? No . I also think expecting a girl to reply or at least reject you in a nice way isn't rude at all and doesn't show an entitlement issue it simply means these guys would expect a girl to have 2 seconds to simply reply or type out a somewhat sensitive message that they would expect themselves in the same situation . Basic decency in my opinion . I think outright ignoring someones message is just as rude .

I also think considering how tough online dating can be for men who aren't exactly the creme de la creme , its no wonder some get so frustrated and lash out on the only ones they can .

Reply 1

Jammy Duel

The way the world seems to work now:
Something offends me
I can find at least one instance of it happening
It is a cultural issue

Alternatively:
Something offends me
I find an instance of somebody doing it
it MUST be banned

Reply 2

BullViagra

how the hell is that cultural misogyny. retarded dm.

like said in one of the comments, "its not just the men".

Reply 3

DErasmus

Original post by Jammy Duel

spot on

I think it's just a case of people having been poorly socialised, how does someone not realise that calling a stranger 'love' might come across peculiar? Yes he is quite right it is a common expression in some regions but it's creepy to others. It's not limited to men.

Reply 4

fatherdougal

I don't think instances of men on the internet are a fair reflection of the entire culture.

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Reply 5

DErasmus

Original post by fatherdougal

I don't think instances of men on the internet are a fair reflection of the entire culture.

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most dont have the balls irl even if they did want to

Reply 6

fatherdougal

Original post by DErasmus

most dont have the balls irl even if they did want to

Yeah, once people are put behind a screen they feel invincible

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Reply 7

username521617

I don't think the behaviour of a few douchebags on dating sites is really indicative of a wider "cultural misogyny problem." Women can be pretty mean too if you decline or don't respond (especially the entitled, bratty types).

Reply 8

Skip_Snip

The headline should be: Women blanking men they don't find appealing is a sign of cultural misandry.

Reply 9

james111r

If slutshaming is a real thing, then so is shaming men or making them viral merely for asking a girl for consentual sex on a DATING WEBSITE.

Sometimes its as simple as a guy using some old cheesy pick up line like are you from tennesse and girls think its funny to make fun of that person.

Reply 10

Snagprophet

This is a stupid thing. I go on tinder occassionally and sometimes I message people and don't get replies. I don't lash out, I can understand it being annoying, especially if it happens frequently, and especially seeing as you and the match are linked because they both have to say they fancy each other.

There also has to be a reason people feel this way to lash out. They're using a dating site because they don't feel confident in real life and because they've had bad experiences. It sounds like they would rather marginalise these men and try to make it seem all women are abused by all men. I don't see how this is a culture, there is no link between anyone other than they're annoyed they get ignored.

This just sounds like 'everyday sexism' where people just post whenever someone's made them feel ****, or because they've interpreted something a certain way.

Reply 11

Hopple

They've been upset by rejection, and have lashed out. Not to say all users of online dating are desperate, but there will be people who have turned to it as a last resort, and as such take rejection worse than usual. However, it is not a sign of a sense of entitlement to be upset at being ignored or rejected, though it is a sign of immaturity (or sour grapes) to call people names.