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Reply 40

Doodahdoo

I have a love/hate relationship with myself. Mostly hate at the moment, though.

Reply 41

dita_parlo

I've hated myself for as long as I can remember, I'm 22 now and can't really see it changing anytime soon.

Reply 42

sofia32

i hate myself. im ****.

Reply 43

jumpshiftbite

I did used to hate myself, and any criticism ruined my day/week/whatever.
Nowadays I'm okay - I hardly care about stuff people say any more. I allow myself to have an opinion and try hard to realise that what they say doesn't have to mean anything to me. I've only been able to become like this by taking long breaks from the people who make me feel crap over the summer holidays, and meeting new people at uni courses and parties & that. It took a fairly long time, but yeah, it's better.

Reply 44

lilac!!

i'm not sure. im all over the place, i gess i hate myself but then at times i feel so lucky that im me and i have things that other may only dream of.

Reply 45

Kate.

I like some things about myself, and dislike some things. I don't think I hate any part of me, really. I've got a lot happier in the past 2 years.

Reply 46

natsing

I was exceptionally shy and introverted as a teenager, had self esteem issues andbody image issues right up until the end of Uni, in the last two years I finally realised this is me, its not going to change anytime soon, and that the most important thing is to be happy and comfortable with who I am. I had to fight for it, but now I'm comfortable in my own skin, and yes I like myself. Keep working at it, you will find some like for yourself in there somewhere!!!

Reply 47

allymcb2

natsing

Why would I want to? If I was somebody else I wouldn't bother speaking to me. Why give myself a less harsh judgement than I would another person?

Reply 48

natsing

allymcb2

Why would I want to? If I was somebody else I wouldn't bother speaking to me. Why give myself a less harsh judgement than I would another person?

Because, unlike with other people, you have no choice but to live with yourself, you cannot escape you!! Being comfortable with who you are is all you have, other people will judge you enough for your decisions, your morals, your opinions, give yourself a break!!!

Reply 49

allymcb2

natsing

Thats no reason to like myself. I wouldn't like horrid decorating just because I didn't have the money to change it, why should I like me just because I can't get away from me?

The judgement of myself should be the same as my judgement of everyone else.

Reply 50

ph9

allymcb2

Why would I want to? If I was somebody else I wouldn't bother speaking to me. Why give myself a less harsh judgement than I would another person?

haha, erm, quit the self-righteousness?

i love myself. i don't constantly feel like this but then who does? generally, i'm content with the person that i am, the way i look. i feel comfortable being me and if i do something stupid/embarrassing/strange, i don't care. i don't apologise just for the sake of it. why should i? we all think the same, we all have similar brains, we all look like human beings... only difference is you're YOU and i'm ME. and i'm proud of that.

all you people that hate/dislike yourselves, yeah, i used to be one of you. just give up the negative vibes. you're wasting so much energy that could be used on positiveness. as "lame" or "pathetic" as it is to be happy these days, it's your life at the end of the day and not some poxy teenage trend setter's who stands outside tesco's constantly frowning and calling you santa claus if your'e laughing.

why don't you just try it for a day or two... think about all the things that make you you and not anybody else... and why you're PROUD of those things. so what if you're not perfect? who the hell cares? imperfection is beautiful.

Reply 51

allymcb2

ph9

why don't you just try it for a day or two... think about all the things that make you you and not anybody else... and why you're PROUD of those things. so what if you're not perfect? who the hell cares? imperfection is beautiful.

So, I am supposed to be proud of all the flab, cellulite spots, stupid mistakes, bad dress sense, bad accent, crap nails, poor grades, indiscretions, and moral wrongs am I? Yeah, right, leave that one with me.

Reply 52

natsing

allymcb2

Yes you are!!! They are part of what makes you, you! If you don't like them change them, otherwise stop whinging about it and learn to deal!!

Reply 53

Wasabi Tea

natsing

Keep working at it, you will find some like for yourself in there somewhere!!!

I must admit, I find the thought of liking myself utterly sickening. I guess that's because I feel that it's my fault that I despise myself so much - if I hadn't turned out to be an idiot, I wouldn't have come to hate myself in the first place, would I? I got myself into this situation, therefore I do not deserve anyone's sympathy or my own approval. *shrugs* That's just how I think.

(Sorry to be so depressing! ^_^; )

Reply 54

ph9

allymcb2

no. your blinding shallowness is making you miss the point here. you accept yourself for the way you are.

if you can't bear the flab, crap nails and bad dress sense, how's about you quit being lazy and do something about it? unless you ENJOY disliking yourself, of course.

as for the other things... they're rather silly. i mean, bad accent? are you being serious here?

as for the stupid mistakes, it's part of being a human being. if you're going to cry yourself to sleep every night for all the stupid mistakes you've made, you won't enjoy life at all. you won't cope. every single being on this planet, even the dead ones, have made stupid mistakes. you're not odd for it.

Reply 55

allymcb2

Wasabi Tea

Quite. And I'd rather keep pursuing the money for a plastic surgeon, and berating my own idiocy, thankyou very much. Hating myself is perhaps my only virtue.

Reply 56

allymcb2

ph9

Its not a question of being perfect, its a question of being good enough. And I'm not, therefore I should hate myself. To do otherwise would make me a hypocrite and a dopamine junky (even more so).

Reply 57

Anonymous #3

I don't really like myself right now, but I'm hoping I will feel a lot better about myself next year when I go to uni.

Just try to remember there's always going to be a person who is worse off than you, and would kill to be you. I really want to change and start being someone I can be proud of.

Reply 58

Wasabi Tea

Ehm... o.o; *quietly scuttles back in* just wanted to make it clear that I didn't mean it's good to hate yourself in my last post. I was just sort of trying to offer my viewpoint... thought it might make it a little easier to understand one of the reasons why people might hate themselves. Ehhhh... o.o; *hides*

Reply 59

dementedbunny

even i admit that i hate myself so much that it's affected me in such a negative way. i can't comprehend people complimenting me, i have a hard time talking to people and making new friends. i've become hypersensitive now and reclusive.

but i've realised that hating myself is making me more miserable than i should be, that's why i'm trying so hard to change. it's extremely difficult, but hating myself has made me do some seriously terrible stuff and is giving me so much arbitrary depression.

and what's to say that you can't change the things you don't like about yourself? i'm trying to do that now. changing my body image, trying to be less lazy, speaking up a little more. it's so difficult and it's really painful and doesn't work all the time, but i know i need to get there. it's especially hard for me since i'm bi-polar which means sometimes the sadness comes at random. before i used to equate that with feelings of self-hate but when the lows come i just try to acknowledge that it's not because of a defect in my personality but a genetic one instead and that helps somewhat.

if you're not good enough, why not make yourself good enough? don't compare yourself to other people, just set your own standards and work up to them. like i said it's easier said than done, but just keep trying.