Guys - is a flirtatious comment from a best male friend ever harmless?

Been friends with this guy for eight years, always been very close platonic friends. In the very early days he used to flirt a little (say I was hot etc, but there's been none of that for nearly a decade!). Mainly because we have both been in relationships I think.

Scenario at the moment - I am single and he has a girlfriend. Anyway, without going into too much detail, he basically made this joke about our friendship/he gave our "friendship" another title before saying it could easily be misconstrued as FWBs so maybe we should pretend he didn't just say that...I could barely believe it when I read this text as he would never say this in person! It just seemed that he would make a sexual comment like that at all.

Should I be alarmed or he is just having a harmless little flirt? He's my best friend and I am not used to such comments from him...

Reply 1

SnoochToTheBooch

17

Original post by Anonymous

Been friends with this guy for eight years, always been very close platonic friends. In the very early days he used to flirt a little (say I was hot etc, but there's been none of that for nearly a decade!). Mainly because we have both been in relationships I think.

Scenario at the moment - I am single and he has a girlfriend. Anyway, without going into too much detail, he basically made this joke about our friendship/he gave our "friendship" another title before saying it could easily be misconstrued as FWBs so maybe we should pretend he didn't just say that...I could barely believe it when I read this text as he would never say this in person! It just seemed that he would make a sexual comment like that at all.

Should I be alarmed or he is just having a harmless little flirt? He's my best friend and I am not used to such comments from him...

All you're gonna get here is people taking wild guesses at the thoughts of a complete stranger.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by SnoochToTheBooch

All you're gonna get here is people taking wild guesses at the thoughts of a complete stranger.

As is the case with every such Q on the internet really...

Reply 3

SnoochToTheBooch

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Original post by Anonymous

As is the case with every such Q on the internet really...

Indeed but with so little information to go on apart from an ambiguous text message I don't know how anyone can offer anything reliable.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by SnoochToTheBooch

Indeed but with so little information to go on apart from an ambiguous text message I don't know how anyone can offer anything reliable.

Well...what information would help? I did try to add some background info..

Reply 5

Guybrush Sheepgood

15

Normally I would say ask him.

HOWEVER

You have been friends with him for 8 years so if I were you I would just forget about it / stay quiet. If he brings it up again then you'll know. If he doesn't then there's nothing to think about.

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

Ummm I don't get it.

You've been friends for eight years but you say there's been none of that for a decade?

How does that add up?

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by Anonymous

Ummm I don't get it.

You've been friends for eight years but you say there's been none of that for a decade?

How does that add up?

He has not made any sexual comments towards me until recently. The friendship has always been platonic.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

Oh I see what you mean. Yeah I can never remember exactly! it's something between 8 - 10 years, can't remember the exact year we met.

Reply 9

Treeroy

18

Can you type the actual text to us? Your first post is a bit confusing.

Reply 10

Darthmixalot

9

I am unable to give any good or sensible advice based on what you have told me.

However, I can give baseless and uninformed advice. I say that you should tell him you love him, get married the next day and live happily ever after. Somehow I doubt my advice is useful, but if it is then I'll be impressed.