My partner has been recently diagnosed with depression. In the last few months their messages (we can only communicate online) have gone from sad to worse. There's been no talk of anything self-destructive like suicide or self-harming (although both are entirely possible).
They're scheduled to visit me in the near future however in the last couple of days there's been plenty of red flags raised. They are constantly seeking reassurance that they can spend alone time with their friends in the area, despite me already making it explicitly clear that was fine. They have said they are freaking out about being with me, but declined to be specific or discuss it further - saying they were too upset to talk about it. They don't like to talk about their illness, or indeed anything, with me. It's like Christmas if I get a smiley on the end of one of their messages.
I've tried to do everything right in terms of the illness. When they were diagnosed, we spoke a little about it and I was referred to various articles telling me to be patient, supportive, not try to fix them etc etc - and I like to think I've ticked all of the boxes.
I'd really like some input from third-parties here. There's no one IRL who I want to talk about this with, and my partner is a total dead-end right now (which is the probably the hardest part).
Has anyone been in similar situations, or got any thoughts on how I can proceed? I'm really struggling at the moment.