People at Uni are so fake! Is it just me? How to make fun of it?

Just my thoughts about Uni really. I feel like the enviornment is just a bubble and it operates around structured cliques. If you go out into the real world, it simply doesn't work like this. I'm 22 so a little older than most of my 18/19 year old peers/friends.

I dislike my flatmates. They are selfish, leave their food everywhere and have never invited me to anything even though I have got them out. Partially they do this because they just haven't invited me and partially because 1 or 2 flatmate on't have their own friends.

But my general point is the fakeness of people. I don't know if I'm overthinking but I just see so much 'sucking up'. Certain people trying to act a a certain way in front of certain people to get a certain status. Even in my friendship group I have someone like this who is dividing the group. I feel like after 5 weeks or so it became very cliquey. I would try to say hello or smile at people and be friendly but they would ignore (but ironically add me on facebook). People try to be someone they are not.

Infact there's people on Facebook who added me and in real life they completely ignore me. It's weird.

Being a bit older I can recognise that the social interaction here is different to normal. It really isn't normal.

Is it just me who feels disappointed about the whole atmosphere? It feels like I'm back at high school, everyone trying to impress and look cool/good. It's really not my thing. I am someone who is completely myself, that's my personality .. I could not pretend to be someone I am not in any way. But if you do that and don't try play up to a certain figure or act a certain way you can get left out of social groups and become very isolated. It's a weird one.

What uni are you at if you don't mind me asking? I will be 22 when I start and am also worried about not fitting in.

Don't worry you will fit in being a chick. If you were a guy then you would be screwed.

Have you thought of looking for other mature students? Maybe they feel the same way as you do.

Most are 18/19. Just a few are 20. That's about it!

That's total rubbish. There are plenty of people to make friends with; if it's not working it might be because you're not making the effort, or because you're a boring, conceited person.

You're saying it as if you know me. What the hell do you know to be saying whether I am boring and/or conceited and not making enough effort?

Edit: and also at what point did I say I didn't have any friends?

Why is that?

Guys like the company of higher years and they will treat as such

Case proven.

I thought it was the other way round TBH. I look young for my age (Asian, I still get hit on by 16/17 year olds in the street despite being 20, who think I'm kidding when I say I have a job ) but isn't it usually guys who prefer younger girls, giving older guys the advantage?

Not the first years on my course, that's for sure

That's odd. I thought 18 year olds fancying 22 year old women was pretty much considered cougar town. Nice to hear anyway

Case proven.

What uni are you at if you don't mind me asking? I will be 22 when I start and am also worried about not fitting in.

Just my thoughts about Uni really. I feel like the enviornment is just a bubble and it operates around structured cliques. If you go out into the real world, it simply doesn't work like this. I'm 22 so a little older than most of my 18/19 year old peers/friends.

I dislike my flatmates. They are selfish, leave their food everywhere and have never invited me to anything even though I have got them out. Partially they do this because they just haven't invited me and partially because 1 or 2 flatmate on't have their own friends.

But my general point is the fakeness of people. I don't know if I'm overthinking but I just see so much 'sucking up'. Certain people trying to act a a certain way in front of certain people to get a certain status. Even in my friendship group I have someone like this who is dividing the group. I feel like after 5 weeks or so it became very cliquey. I would try to say hello or smile at people and be friendly but they would ignore (but ironically add me on facebook). People try to be someone they are not.

Infact there's people on Facebook who added me and in real life they completely ignore me. It's weird.

Being a bit older I can recognise that the social interaction here is different to normal. It really isn't normal.

Is it just me who feels disappointed about the whole atmosphere? It feels like I'm back at high school, everyone trying to impress and look cool/good. It's really not my thing. I am someone who is completely myself, that's my personality .. I could not pretend to be someone I am not in any way. But if you do that and don't try play up to a certain figure or act a certain way you can get left out of social groups and become very isolated. It's a weird one.