I have always enjoyed watching both straight and gay porn. Back when I was in year 9, watching straight porn and realising I was attracted to the male genital and their muscular physique. But it never really come across my mind that I am gay because I never had a crush on boys, I was just attracted to their body form while watching porn.
2 years ago, when I was in my 2nd year in Uni, I met a girl through sports who I really liked. We went out for a few dates and then she became my girlfriend. We never had sex, for religious reason. I really enjoyed her company and I really liked her but watching gay porn made me feel really guilty. I felt like I was not honest, I was hiding from her. And because she is such a nice girl, I felt that she doesnt deserve a guy who is not into girls.
That feeling got between us and then it was exam season so we didnt see each other much, and then I broke up with her after June exams face to face. That was our half a year relationship. She told me she felt that I've been shying away from her the month before June so she felt that I never liked her, I just wanted company.
I questioned myself whether her statement was true. Whether I never liked her and just wanted a girl date coz that's what straight people do.
I have been thinking a lot about my sexuality. I think I am bisexual, I am attracted to naked women too, but never lesbian act like all other boys. I enjoyed POV video with a girl doing the act, and I still enjoyed gay porn.
After the break up, I have had some other dates but I realised I still miss my ex a lot.
I went to her in January, 7 months after our break up and told her I wanted to get back with her. I told her about that the way I feel about gay porn and she didnt think it was a problem. (I was so dumb I didnt mention I was attracted to both sex, now that I think about it she might think I am completely gay) But she said she didnt want to get back with me. I asked her where were we at, what was I to her. She said I was a little bit more than a best friend but just that, nothing more. Before I left her flat, she asked me three times if I had any other questions for her. I didn't.
Ever since that confession I've been keeping in touch with her, just normal chatting, nothing special. In June, I wrote her a letter asking her to take me back again, and told her if she didnt want me back anymore, please ignore me completely because I was in hell, I couldn't deal with the feeling not being one of the most important person in her life like I used to be.
We have never spoken ever since. We stopped texting, no contact what so ever. except for my birthday she sent me a birthday wish and a little convo afterward but it was extremely awkward.
I am still really hung up on her and I can't forget this girl, I can't get through this. I have met another girl a month ago and we have been flirting a lot, but I couldnt convince myself to go out with this new girl coz I miss my ex so much and I don't know how to get into a new relationship regardless of my new date's gender. I even felt guilty flirting with this other girl even though I am single.
I am not worried about my sexuality anymore, I am open to dating men and women. The thing is I want to get back with my ex so bad...... but we havent spoken in almost half a year now, and I've tried asking her out again twice (Jan and June) before. Doest that mean I am completely hopeless?
I need some advices from you guys.