I'm 31, and have no physical attraction for women 21+ is this common?

I was almost very worried till you clarified that restriction as 18 and over too

*phew*

I'm writing this post because for some time now, I've been having a problem and I wanted to see what other guys had to say on the subject.

Here it is, the issue. I look 24 (But I'm 31) and I am quite a good looking guy, look after myself.

What I'm experiencing is an exclusive attraction for women who are between 18-21, basically university years. I have tried to date women around 25+ but it felt like there was no physical interest inside of me towards these women. On the plus side, I visit student nightclubs a couple of nights a week and have one night stands on a regular basis however I want these girls to become a girlfriend, am I kidding myself?

I just want your opinion on what you suggest someone like me could do and whether or not you felt the same at my age and eventually grew to find older women attractive?

Naturally this matters because I worry that one day these young women will not want me and I will be lonely unable to be sexually attracted to women in my age range, even now a 26 year old is 6 years younger than me, however in my eyes she is old.

What do you suggest?

Yeah it may be strange going to student events but what is the obsession with money, A 20 yr old woman would probably rather go out with a good looking 31 yr old than an ugly 21 yr old. If you look at Bradley Cooper, Ryan Philippe, Leonardo Dicaprio it's not uncommon for men to find a 21 yr old more attractive than a 31 yr old.

The fact that you prefer younger women is not a bad thing, that's no different to having a thing for big breasts rather than small. The fact that you want a relationship with these girls is also not a bad thing, it may be that you are simply attracted to people who are care free and not stressing about careers.

The weird things though (and you do have problems here) are the fact that you seem to have no attraction to those of a similar age to you at all. It's normal to have a preference, it's not good if it's at the extent that you have to write people off automatically. Secondly, frequenting student bars is a little weird. Surely better to get your 18 year old and take her somewhere classy.

Thanks for taking the time to write a respond to this thread. I must sound completely bonkers. It's not something that I am happy to admit, just that I seem to attracted to this age, I'm not sure where this will all end up, you mentioned taking a girl to somewhere classy, is that what she would want though, I mean I could and have done that in the past but it didnt go down too well.

The reason that I go student clubs and take girls on dates to student bars is because I thought that this is the place where they would feel most comfortable, not for my benefit. I'll have to rethink what I am doing, ideally a girl whos just about to finish uni and is mature would be ideal. I also married a girl when I was 24, who was 18 at the time and we have a 6 year son, so its what I am used to, my last serious relationship was at that point. I guess when it's no longer a mutual attraction I would call it a day.

I'm writing this post because for some time now, I've been having a problem and I wanted to see what other guys had to say on the subject.

Here it is, the issue. I look 24 (But I'm 31) and I am quite a good looking guy, look after myself.

What I'm experiencing is an exclusive attraction for women who are between 18-21, basically university years. I have tried to date women around 25+ but it felt like there was no physical interest inside of me towards these women. On the plus side, I visit student nightclubs a couple of nights a week and have one night stands on a regular basis however I want these girls to become a girlfriend, am I kidding myself?

I just want your opinion on what you suggest someone like me could do and whether or not you felt the same at my age and eventually grew to find older women attractive?

Naturally this matters because I worry that one day these young women will not want me and I will be lonely unable to be sexually attracted to women in my age range, even now a 26 year old is 6 years younger than me, however in my eyes she is old.

What do you suggest?

That's kind of the point. Relative abundance. Older guys with nouse, experience, interest/intrique and, critically, maturity/stability and a far stronger sense of self, are relatively scarce, this makes us a relatively prized commodity. It's basic economics

Depends on the guy tbh

Depends on the guy tbh. I dated a 19 year old Russian chick earlier this year. Also hooked up with a 22 year old (from TSR in fact) not so long ago. Wasn't anything creepy about either, at all

Depends on the guy tbh (I'm not in the least bit wealthy)

No, perhaps you could enlighten us

True, and your responses did make me chuckle.. you kinda owned the guy, but your comments are slightly misdirected and OTT

He's not enabling anything, the OP is going to do as he pleases regardless of what any of us say, he seems to be wired that way

I'd rather settle with a girl whom won't age for another 10-20 years than one whom is about to, given the choice


I’m not convinced he’s all that interested in meeting ‘nice’ girls being as his lifestyle seems to revolve around banging these young broads (in which case student clubs must be the place to go)

Don't really see why really, so long as he's not being a creeper. Why hold someone else's personal choices when it comes to mating/dating against them if everyone is consenting and everyone is happy? (unless you're jealous/butthurt)

1. Men and women are not the same, so it is in no way equivalent

2. It's not called Oceana anymore

Agreed, especially when kids come into the equation. Does neither parent, nor offspring, any good (speaking from personal experience + recognition of the stats/related health and welfare literature)

I also married a girl when I was 24, who was 18 at the time and we have a 6 year son, so its what I am used to, my last serious relationship was at that point.

That's kind of the point. Relative abundance. Available, interested, older guys with nouse, experience, interest/intrigue and, critically, maturity/stability, a far stronger sense of self and higher security value e.g. paternalistic/bread winner credentials, are relatively scarce; this makes us a relatively prized commodity. It's basic economics

Depends on the guy tbh

Depends on the guy tbh

e.g. I dated a 19 year old Russian chick earlier this year. Also hooked up with a 22 year old (from TSR in fact) not so long ago. Wasn't anything creepy about either, at all

Depends on the guy tbh

e.g. I'm not even technically independent, never mind wealthy

No, perhaps you could enlighten us

True, and your responses did make me chuckle.. you kinda owned the guy, but your comments are slightly misdirected and OTT

He's not enabling anything, the OP is going to do as he pleases regardless of what any of us say, he seems to be wired that way

I'd rather settle with a girl whom won't age for another 10-20 years than one whom is already beginning to, given the choice


I’m not convinced he’s all that interested in meeting ‘nice’ girls being as his lifestyle seems to revolve around banging these young broads (in which case student clubs must be the place to go)

Don't really see why really, so long as he's not being a creeper. Why hold someone else's personal choices when it comes to mating/dating against them if everyone is consenting and everyone is happy? (unless you're jealous/butthurt)

1. Men and women are not the same, so it is in no way equivalent

2. It's not called Oceana anymore

Agreed, especially when kids come into the equation. Does neither parent, nor offspring, any good (speaking from personal experience + a learned appreciation of the stats/related health and welfare literature)

I'd say it's quite regular, I prefer younger women to my age (I'm not old at all, but I prefer 18+) there's a socio-evolutionary precedence for wanting younger women too.

I didn't know you was 31