How to add someone on Facebook without coming across as a stalker

So I have spoken to people in the Gym or playing Basketball however I want to add them on Facebook.

How would I do this without coming across as a stalker?

Reply 1

CatnipGlows

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... This is like THE question.
The unanswerable question.

The best tactic I've seen though..
A) if you've got mutual friends, just add them, pretend it was just suggested by facebook.
B) if not, go through their friends list, then add random people who you don't know or care about.. hopefully, a few will accept, then you can revert back to point A.

Reply 2

askew116

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Original post by Saqua

So I have spoken to people in the Gym or playing Basketball however I want to add them on Facebook.

How would I do this without coming across as a stalker?

Original post by abbiemac

... This is like THE question.
The unanswerable question.

The best tactic I've seen though..
A) if you've got mutual friends, just add them, pretend it was just suggested by facebook.
B) if not, go through their friends list, then add random people who you don't know or care about.. hopefully, a few will accept, then you can revert back to point A.

Yeah, point A is a great excuse to give, provided a) you've actually met this person, and b) you have at least 1 mutual friend.

Reply 3

moutonfou

14

Original post by Saqua

So I have spoken to people in the Gym or playing Basketball however I want to add them on Facebook.

How would I do this without coming across as a stalker?

Personally I wait until I've talked to people two or three times and am likely to do so again (i.e. we see each other regularly, we have a common hobby/work/friends) before adding them. But I know lots of people who add after they've met someone once! Maybe look at the number of friends of the people you want to add as an indication - if they've got 500+ friends it's likely they add anyone! If they've got more like 100 they might be choosier.

Original post by abbiemac

... This is like THE question.
The unanswerable question.

The best tactic I've seen though..
A) if you've got mutual friends, just add them, pretend it was just suggested by facebook.
B) if not, go through their friends list, then add random people who you don't know or care about.. hopefully, a few will accept, then you can revert back to point A.