Would you think twice before befriending a rich uni student?

Thanks everyone for their responses!



Well I'm relieved to hear that. In fact that's what I thought before coming to the UK, but to the majority of my friends here having more than one property does seem like a big deal. In my country it's not unheard of at all, many middle class families have two houses, one for summer holidays and the other for the rest of the year.

WHen I was in Malta I befriended a girl from my country. Only when we were about to leave I found out she's top 50 richest person in our family. It hasnt changed a thing between us. Shes a cool person, so is her bro who i was friends with as well and I dont care if shes rich or not. She doesnt feel superior to me or anything and I like her the way she is (although I do get jealous sometimes)

I don't believe that. When people that rich are on holiday you know about it.

I don’t know what country you're from but it is emphatically not the norm for even middle-class families to own about six houses in the UK...

Upper middle class may rent out a place or two but that's as much as it ever is

I'm posting anonymously to avoid accusations of bragging - I would NEVER disclose this info about myself in real life or even under my internet persona.

Bluntly said, my parents are quite well off. I come from another country where my family owns 4 flats and 2 houses, 2 cars, several acres of land (inherited from my grandparents) and latest models of phones. However both my mom and dad come from lower income families and had to work their arses of to achieve that wealth. They were able to afford international fees without compromising their life quality, and now they are decreasing their workload to ease their way into retirement.

Even though I'm an only child, my parents (especially my dad) tried to teach me the values of modesty and compassion. For example, I don't have my own car, no do I want to, I use public transport whenever I can, I always try to get lowest offers on things I buy, I give away stuff I don't need anymore to charity rather than throwing them away, I pack my own lunches and try not to eat out or spend too much on booze, etc.

But still, my mom buys me stuff from designer brands which I don't particularly oppose, and even though I try my best to not disclose the fact that I'm rich to my friends, I sometimes unintentionally reveal some things that could hint that I am. For example, while talking about properties I said that my family had a summer house in my home country, to which my friend reacted as follows: "Wow you must be really rich to have more than one property." I told her that we sold it eventually (which is not a lie, the only thing I didn't mention was we sold it to buy something even more expensive and that we have more than 2 properties already). Most, if not all, of my friends come from lower income families. Usually I don't enjoy the company of rich people because they come across as spoilt and superficial to me.

Long story short, if you come from an underprivileged family (or just not as well of as mine is), would you think twice before befriending me?

I'm posting anonymously to avoid accusations of bragging - I would NEVER disclose this info about myself in real life or even under my internet persona.

Bluntly said, my parents are quite well off. I come from another country where my family owns 4 flats and 2 houses, 2 cars, several acres of land (inherited from my grandparents) and latest models of phones. However both my mom and dad come from lower income families and had to work their arses of to achieve that wealth. They were able to afford international fees without compromising their life quality, and now they are decreasing their workload to ease their way into retirement.

Even though I'm an only child, my parents (especially my dad) tried to teach me the values of modesty and compassion. For example, I don't have my own car, no do I want to, I use public transport whenever I can, I always try to get lowest offers on things I buy, I give away stuff I don't need anymore to charity rather than throwing them away, I pack my own lunches and try not to eat out or spend too much on booze, etc.

But still, my mom buys me stuff from designer brands which I don't particularly oppose, and even though I try my best to not disclose the fact that I'm rich to my friends, I sometimes unintentionally reveal some things that could hint that I am. For example, while talking about properties I said that my family had a summer house in my home country, to which my friend reacted as follows: "Wow you must be really rich to have more than one property." I told her that we sold it eventually (which is not a lie, the only thing I didn't mention was we sold it to buy something even more expensive and that we have more than 2 properties already). Most, if not all, of my friends come from lower income families. Usually I don't enjoy the company of rich people because they come across as spoilt and superficial to me.

Long story short, if you come from an underprivileged family (or just not as well of as mine is), would you think twice before befriending me?

I'm posting anonymously to avoid accusations of bragging - I would NEVER disclose this info about myself in real life or even under my internet persona.

Bluntly said, my parents are quite well off. I come from another country where my family owns 4 flats and 2 houses, 2 cars, several acres of land (inherited from my grandparents) and latest models of phones. However both my mom and dad come from lower income families and had to work their arses of to achieve that wealth. They were able to afford international fees without compromising their life quality, and now they are decreasing their workload to ease their way into retirement.

Even though I'm an only child, my parents (especially my dad) tried to teach me the values of modesty and compassion. For example, I don't have my own car, no do I want to, I use public transport whenever I can, I always try to get lowest offers on things I buy, I give away stuff I don't need anymore to charity rather than throwing them away, I pack my own lunches and try not to eat out or spend too much on booze, etc.

But still, my mom buys me stuff from designer brands which I don't particularly oppose, and even though I try my best to not disclose the fact that I'm rich to my friends, I sometimes unintentionally reveal some things that could hint that I am. For example, while talking about properties I said that my family had a summer house in my home country, to which my friend reacted as follows: "Wow you must be really rich to have more than one property." I told her that we sold it eventually (which is not a lie, the only thing I didn't mention was we sold it to buy something even more expensive and that we have more than 2 properties already). Most, if not all, of my friends come from lower income families. Usually I don't enjoy the company of rich people because they come across as spoilt and superficial to me.

Long story short, if you come from an underprivileged family (or just not as well of as mine is), would you think twice before befriending me?

yes.

i have found that rich people have befriended me because they think i can act as some sort of streetwise consultant. a sort of ghillie for the urban environment.

then i've found after they no longer need to be in that environment they detach from any communication.

it does become apparent to me that many rich people do not make friends with poor people unless its for necessity at the time.

even if they genuinely like me i can tell they see me as a sort of "fun character" and a "fond memory" to look back on.

this was a stereotype of rich people that i new and was aware of but hadn't experienced it first hand. but now i have and i will forever second guess intentions from a rich person.

I don’t know what country you're from but it is emphatically not the norm for even middle-class families to own about six houses in the UK...

Upper middle class may rent out a place or two but that's as much as it ever is

Thanks again to everyone! I'm so glad people would rather focus on my responsibility than the amount of money my parents make.



I avoid revealing my country because someone who knows me in real life may identify me. I can't say it's the norm to own six houses in my country, we're like the upper segment of the middle class, but my father rented out all but two of those houses to pay off my tuition fees. With that said, it is the norm to have a vacation house along the seaside in addition to a normal house/flat if you live in the major cities.