First time
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But I had to ask...
It was my first time and it was incredibly painful!!!
I checked reasons afterwards, and yes there was plenty of foreplay, I was wet and he did try and put it in slow...
But it hurt so bad it wouldn't even go in... He was really understanding about it but I was just ry embarrassed. We tried a few times after this but it had kind of swollen and was sore that we left it in the end
Also tried it from the back and it just didn't seem to go in...
I asked a few friends and trusty Google but seemed to have followed correct 'steps'
Just worried about next time now. Any serious suggestions would be helpful
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But I had to ask...
It was my first time and it was incredibly painful!!!
I checked reasons afterwards, and yes there was plenty of foreplay, I was wet and he did try and put it in slow...
But it hurt so bad it wouldn't even go in... He was really understanding about it but I was just ry embarrassed. We tried a few times after this but it had kind of swollen and was sore that we left it in the end
Also tried it from the back and it just didn't seem to go in...
I asked a few friends and trusty Google but seemed to have followed correct 'steps'
Just worried about next time now. Any serious suggestions would be helpful
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Its possible that you have a very thick hymen which won't stretch as it normally should.
Its also possible that you have a condition called vaginismus, which is where the vaginal muscles involuntarily clench (often due to fear or anxiety) making penetration painful or impossible.
The main things you can do is carry on with foreplay, try to ease yourself in using fingers and gently stretching yourself/having your partner do so without focusing on penetration with a penis, if that doesn't work, you'll need to see a doctor and have them check whats going on so it can be treated.
Its also possible that you have a condition called vaginismus, which is where the vaginal muscles involuntarily clench (often due to fear or anxiety) making penetration painful or impossible.
The main things you can do is carry on with foreplay, try to ease yourself in using fingers and gently stretching yourself/having your partner do so without focusing on penetration with a penis, if that doesn't work, you'll need to see a doctor and have them check whats going on so it can be treated.
Original post by Kabloomybuzz
Its possible that you have a very thick hymen which won't stretch as it normally should.
Its also possible that you have a condition called vaginismus, which is where the vaginal muscles involuntarily clench (often due to fear or anxiety) making penetration painful or impossible.
The main things you can do is carry on with foreplay, try to ease yourself in using fingers and gently stretching yourself/having your partner do so without focusing on penetration with a penis, if that doesn't work, you'll need to see a doctor and have them check whats going on so it can be treated.
Its also possible that you have a condition called vaginismus, which is where the vaginal muscles involuntarily clench (often due to fear or anxiety) making penetration painful or impossible.
The main things you can do is carry on with foreplay, try to ease yourself in using fingers and gently stretching yourself/having your partner do so without focusing on penetration with a penis, if that doesn't work, you'll need to see a doctor and have them check whats going on so it can be treated.
Thank you so much for your reply!!
That sounds right, I did feel myself clenching... At one point I was resting on my elbows and moving downwards, and I could feel how tense I was. But it wasn't like I didn't want it so I couldn't understand why...
The finger thing we've done numerous times so I may consider seeing a doctor now
Thanks once again
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Easier said than done but try not to be worried about next time (if you want a next time - remember it's your choice each time) because from what you said he sounds really great and you both did all the right things.
Indeed worrying can tense you up and your first time is likely always going to be a little uncomfortable no matter how relaxed you think you are or how caring he is because it is a new experience.
Tips would be to keep talking and listening to each other, not think of penetration as the ultimate goal, be sure that there is no underlying psychological problem, check physically you haven't got an infection or illness or any allergies and see a doctor if you are concerned.
Good luck
Indeed worrying can tense you up and your first time is likely always going to be a little uncomfortable no matter how relaxed you think you are or how caring he is because it is a new experience.
Tips would be to keep talking and listening to each other, not think of penetration as the ultimate goal, be sure that there is no underlying psychological problem, check physically you haven't got an infection or illness or any allergies and see a doctor if you are concerned.
Good luck
Original post by jaffacake111
Easier said than done but try not to be worried about next time (if you want a next time - remember it's your choice each time) because from what you said he sounds really great and you both did all the right things.
Indeed worrying can tense you up and your first time is likely always going to be a little uncomfortable no matter how relaxed you think you are or how caring he is because it is a new experience.
Tips would be to keep talking and listening to each other, not think of penetration as the ultimate goal, be sure that there is no underlying psychological problem, check physically you haven't got an infection or illness or any allergies and see a doctor if you are concerned.
Good luck
Indeed worrying can tense you up and your first time is likely always going to be a little uncomfortable no matter how relaxed you think you are or how caring he is because it is a new experience.
Tips would be to keep talking and listening to each other, not think of penetration as the ultimate goal, be sure that there is no underlying psychological problem, check physically you haven't got an infection or illness or any allergies and see a doctor if you are concerned.
Good luck
Yeah, he is rather great 😊
I wasn't worried at the time, as the first attempt I was calm and ready... The other attempts I was getting frustrated and upset as to what I was doing wrong.
It turned out my cousin was allergic to condoms and we tried that before changing our minds and remove it, so now you mention it that could be a possibility
I appreciate the response
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Original post by Little_missy01
Yeah, he is rather great 😊
I wasn't worried at the time, as the first attempt I was calm and ready... The other attempts I was getting frustrated and upset as to what I was doing wrong.
It turned out my cousin was allergic to condoms and we tried that before changing our minds and remove it, so now you mention it that could be a possibility
I appreciate the response
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I wasn't worried at the time, as the first attempt I was calm and ready... The other attempts I was getting frustrated and upset as to what I was doing wrong.
It turned out my cousin was allergic to condoms and we tried that before changing our minds and remove it, so now you mention it that could be a possibility
I appreciate the response
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Your frustration is completey understandable but that frustration is also the reason you need to get things sorted out.
You experience the effects of this issue in the direct sense but has potential to effect him too and leave him feeling guilty, upset, rejected, scared etc.
I'm not suggesting it will put a strain on your relationship but it is something to be aware of
Original post by Zarek
I guess first time can be a bit tense. Also condoms don't make it any easier and there is a particular knack from behind. My thoughts would be keep trying, try to relax, modest amount of alcohol, lubricant (not necessarily in this order). Might be worth a trip to GP too.
We've always come close to going all the way, so when we did and this 'obstruction' occurred it was so suprising as I thought it would just glide in
I was relaxed mentally but physically I wasn't :/
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try a smaller penis
Original post by mebemaurice
try a smaller penis
7 inches is standard though
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Original post by Little_missy01
It isn't. The average in the UK is 5.5 inches erect. 7 is quite a bit above average...
Original post by Kabloomybuzz
It isn't. The average in the UK is 5.5 inches erect. 7 is quite a bit above average...
He must have been 5 then... It looked fairly average to me. I jus told him it was big to make him feel better and feed his ego
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Original post by Little_missy01
He must have been 5 then... It looked fairly average to me. I jus told him it was big to make him feel better and feed his ego
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is your 'fairly average' based off porn? Because porn dicks (even amateur, usually) are always above average. 5.5 actually looks quite small if you're used to how porn portrays dicks. It's less than the 15cm ruler you used as a kid. Porn only uses penises in excess of 6 inches unless it's niche porn.
Original post by Alaric III
is your 'fairly average' based off porn? Because porn dicks (even amateur, usually) are always above average. 5.5 actually looks quite small if you're used to how porn portrays dicks. It's less than the 15cm ruler you used as a kid. Porn only uses penises in excess of 6 inches unless it's niche porn.
I don't watch porn
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Original post by Little_missy01
This will most likely get deleted
But I had to ask...
It was my first time and it was incredibly painful!!!
I checked reasons afterwards, and yes there was plenty of foreplay, I was wet and he did try and put it in slow...
But it hurt so bad it wouldn't even go in... He was really understanding about it but I was just ry embarrassed. We tried a few times after this but it had kind of swollen and was sore that we left it in the end
Also tried it from the back and it just didn't seem to go in...
I asked a few friends and trusty Google but seemed to have followed correct 'steps'
Just worried about next time now. Any serious suggestions would be helpful
Posted from TSR Mobile
But I had to ask...
It was my first time and it was incredibly painful!!!
I checked reasons afterwards, and yes there was plenty of foreplay, I was wet and he did try and put it in slow...
But it hurt so bad it wouldn't even go in... He was really understanding about it but I was just ry embarrassed. We tried a few times after this but it had kind of swollen and was sore that we left it in the end
Also tried it from the back and it just didn't seem to go in...
I asked a few friends and trusty Google but seemed to have followed correct 'steps'
Just worried about next time now. Any serious suggestions would be helpful
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It's possible you were just nervous, it's much harder to get it to go in if you aren't relaxed. At first i find you have to go really slowly even though i've had sex plenty times.
Something else to consider is if it's very big it probably will hurt a little bit initially so go extra slow and possibly try some lube some people find that helps.
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