Stop looking, do things you enjoy/believe in - you, not some constructed persona which exists just to get girls. It's pretty shocking how many men don't have any handle on what they enjoy, the only ones who seem well adjusted - and who, not coincidentally, seem to get all the girls - are those who have a competitive hobby.
Doing things you enjoy or believe in will make you into the sort of guy who has something to say for himself, whose self-esteem is independent from how his relationships with women are going, and is likely to put you into environments where you meet girls who are similar to you on your terms rather than on the often unforgiving, masochistic terms of the clubbing scene.