Muslims girls: advice please

I've been curious about her for nearly ayear

When my parents bring up the topic of marriage, I try and nudge it away and say I'll never get married because it's an awkward topic for me.

This is just pure lust. You have never spoken to her yet you have intentions of marrying her?

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you are in my duas

Even if she knew you existed she's already got her mind off...
Proposing to her will scare her but I feel your pain.

Why don't you just go and ask her, "Can you make rotis?"

Even if you do get the courage then keep us informed!



I wish my parents would get me married early lol.



You do know this is a muslim marriage (which lasts till you die) and not a Western marriage?



Remember me in your duas aswell!

Yes, but doesn't it seem as if the op only wants to marry her because of her appearance?

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I am a Muslim guy in Uni and I am interested in getting to know a girl I've seen around Uni for potential marriage reasons. She seems quite conservative. She wears Hijab and Abaya and she doesn't really speak to guys when it comes to her social life. I haven't had an opportunity to see her that many times as we are studying different courses. I've seen her in the library and in some society events and she is always with her friend.

Anyway I don't know what to say to her if I see her at an appropriate location and time. I mean I don't want to give the impression that I want a pre-marital relationship with her, nor do I want to give the impression that I want a friendship with her. I seem to be so pessimistic when thinking about this. I keep thinking about the barriers that may occur when making marital advancements. For example 'she will definitely say no', 'her parents might disagree as we are of different ethnicity(This is a common thing within Muslim marriages)', and 'the previous two thoughts don't matter as I don't have the courage to interact with her'.

I've been curious about her for nearly ayear and I've been trying to get my mind off this and just trying to focus on my studies as I am going through a stressful time with my studies at the moment. My parents don't want me to think of marriage at the moment as I am doing a really demanding degree and want me to get that out the way first. I just don't want to find that she has married someone else without even having the opportunity to get to know her. She is also in the middle of a really demanding degree so I'm not sure if she wants to consider marriage right now.

So advice by Muslim girls would be appreciated. What should I say to her next time I see her?

Do you have any mutual friends with the girl she goes to events with? Sometimes it's best to approach a friend first just to see what the predicament is regarding her preferences with these kinds of things.

Oooo. As a fellow Year 11 Muslim Myself. This is very intriguing to me! :O
It's really awks! xD
Just go and say hi? The Girls in my school talk to boys everyday. Infact muslim girls are so westernized these days that they do have BF/GF although it is prohibited.

I am aware that all of this is happening and a lot of Muslims are having boyfriends and girlfriends. Just because it is happening doesn't mean that I'll follow that. I want to pursue these matters Islamically.

Even if she knew you existed she's already got her mind off...
Proposing to her will scare her but I feel your pain.

Why don't you just go and ask her, "Can you make rotis?"

Even if you do get the courage then keep us informed!



I wish my parents would get me married early lol.



You do know this is a muslim marriage (which lasts till you die) and not a Western marriage?



Remember me in your duas aswell!

I am a Muslim guy in Uni and I am interested in getting to know a girl I've seen around Uni for potential marriage reasons. She seems quite conservative. She wears Hijab and Abaya and she doesn't really speak to guys when it comes to her social life. I haven't had an opportunity to see her that many times as we are studying different courses. I've seen her in the library and in some society events and she is always with her friend.

Anyway I don't know what to say to her if I see her at an appropriate location and time. I mean I don't want to give the impression that I want a pre-marital relationship with her, nor do I want to give the impression that I want a friendship with her. I seem to be so pessimistic when thinking about this. I keep thinking about the barriers that may occur when making marital advancements. For example 'she will definitely say no', 'her parents might disagree as we are of different ethnicity(This is a common thing within Muslim marriages)', and 'the previous two thoughts don't matter as I don't have the courage to interact with her'.

I've been curious about her for nearly ayear and I've been trying to get my mind off this and just trying to focus on my studies as I am going through a stressful time with my studies at the moment. My parents don't want me to think of marriage at the moment as I am doing a really demanding degree and want me to get that out the way first. I just don't want to find that she has married someone else without even having the opportunity to get to know her. She is also in the middle of a really demanding degree so I'm not sure if she wants to consider marriage right now.

So advice by Muslim girls would be appreciated. What should I say to her next time I see her?

She knows I exist, but yes that's probably true.
She might not know what a roti is. She's not Indian btw.

My parents don't want me to marry now too, and I don't think they'll start something to get me married anyway. I have to start it. My family doesn't do arranged marriages anymore.

Ethnicity shouldn't matter. If you think that she is compatible with you and is on the same wave length as you then why should it stop you? I'm in the exact same position as you believe me its hard I know. I'm in the same position as you except im a girl. I say you pray istikhara and go with your gut feeling. If you think she's the one then id say you go through mutual friends if you have any or maybe join a society she's in!

Hi & salam
I'm a Muslim female and think you should write her a letter and give it to her. Just a suggestion and entirely up to you what you do.
Write down exactly what your intentions are and be open and honest. State in your letter you would like the opportunity to speak to her properly with a view to marriage offering your telephone number and email address for her to respond to. Ask her to respond even if she is declining allowing you to know her response rather than pondering. Explain how you did not wish to impose on her verbally and were unsure of how to start communicating. Also when handing her the letter say salam and ask her to read the letter. Smile and be confident (without appearing arrogant lol tough call).
Might I add that you should not be disheartened if the response is negative.
I'd also advocate Istikhara asking Allah SWT for His Help.
Hope it works out for you, all the best
Wasalam

Don't women prefer the guy being bold and saying it one to one rather than writing a letter / text message / facebooking?

Ethnicity doesn't matter in my family. I'm just concerned that it might matter in hers if anything happens. You say you're in the exact same situation as me. What situation are you in? I'm interested to know. You can PM me instead if you don't want to post it, or if you'd rather not, then you don't have to do that too.

Thanks for the advice, I will pray istikhara and Tahajjud in sha Allah.

She knows I exist, but yes that's probably true.
She might not know what a roti is. She's not Indian btw.

My parents don't want me to marry now too, and I don't think they'll start something to get me married anyway. I have to start it. My family doesn't do arranged marriages anymore.

Don't women prefer the guy being bold and saying it one to one rather than writing a letter / text message / facebooking?

Got to keep it halal though

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How do you know she's religious by the way? Just because she wears an abaya and hijab it doesn't mean she is, I wear both but I'm in the middle.