Muslims girls: advice please

I'm a Muslim girl, if a guy was interested in me then I would prefer it if he didnt talk about marriage in the first conversation..just be yourself and talk in a friendly way and her reaction would indicate if she seemed interested in you or not. Just be confident and go for it.

I think you should firstly speak to your parents and let them know that you're feelings it'll be best of speaking to your mum as you know boys are usually close with their mums anyways, i think you should let your mum know and then see if your mum could speak to her family in some way so there's no such haram communication going on ygm?

These are two completely different responses(both from Muslim girls). It seems as it depends on the individual on what they prefer is the best approach. I can't read this girl's mind which is why I don't know what she would prefer.

As for the second response, I can't speak to my parents about this. I do tell my mother nearly everything, but I'll get really embarassed when mentioning this. And it's because my parents don't want me to think about this right now until I've finished my studies too.

These are two completely different responses(both from Muslim girls). It seems as it depends on the individual on what they prefer is the best approach. I can't read this girl's mind which is why I don't know what she would prefer.

As for the second response, I can't speak to my parents about this. I do tell my mother nearly everything, but I'll get really embarassed when mentioning this. And it's because my parents don't want me to think about this right now until I've finished my studies too.

I am a Muslim guy in Uni and I am interested in getting to know a girl I've seen around Uni for potential marriage reasons. She seems quite conservative. She wears Hijab and Abaya and she doesn't really speak to guys when it comes to her social life. I haven't had an opportunity to see her that many times as we are studying different courses. I've seen her in the library and in some society events and she is always with her friend.

Anyway I don't know what to say to her if I see her at an appropriate location and time. I mean I don't want to give the impression that I want a pre-marital relationship with her, nor do I want to give the impression that I want a friendship with her. I seem to be so pessimistic when thinking about this. I keep thinking about the barriers that may occur when making marital advancements. For example 'she will definitely say no', 'her parents might disagree as we are of different ethnicity(This is a common thing within Muslim marriages)', and 'the previous two thoughts don't matter as I don't have the courage to interact with her'.

I've been curious about her for nearly ayear and I've been trying to get my mind off this and just trying to focus on my studies as I am going through a stressful time with my studies at the moment. My parents don't want me to think of marriage at the moment as I am doing a really demanding degree and want me to get that out the way first. I just don't want to find that she has married someone else without even having the opportunity to get to know her. She is also in the middle of a really demanding degree so I'm not sure if she wants to consider marriage right now.

So advice by Muslim girls would be appreciated. What should I say to her next time I see her?

Hmm...Wait till you've finished your studies and have a normal conversation with her like ask her what does she study etc

That would be impossible. Once we finish out degrees, we probably won't see eachother again. Most people move to different area depending on where they get work. It's also possible that she might be getting married to someone else if I don't act fast. (Her parents might arrange her with someone or something like that)
I know what she studies btw so I won't ask that. I'll ask different questions if a conversation starts. And you just said make sure there is no Haram communication and for me to tell my parents.

The worst that can happen is her saying no. But you'll regret doing nothing

The second response could work out though because thats how I got to know my ex..he saw me at some Islamic event and didn't know who I was so he asked about me and my family and got my house number off mutual people, then he told his mother and she contacted my mum about her son wanting to get to know me. When the next event came I met his mother and siblings but I had no idea that there was a reason behind it lol and another time the guy was helping out at the event and my mum made me volunteer so that we could unintentionally bump into each other and see him, I just didn't know that she was trying to bring us closer together or anything until one day she told me that someone wants to get to know me and by then i kind of guessed..so I went with her to a coffee shop and met him and we all had a nice chat. But we ended breaking up because he was rushing to get married which intimidated me as I wanted to spend more time getting to know him and having feelings develop. Anyway my point is it could work out but since you are in the same uni as that girl and you see her a lot then I think it would be better to build up the courage and go speak to her, good luck!

Salaam brother,

I hope you're well.
Can I just first say that your shyness to talk to her is admirable. I'm glad you're keeping it halal.

I would like to tell you a story about a friend who I went to uni with. She's a decent practicing girl and never even considered marriage. She thought she would always want to marry way into the future, like when she's 30 years old or something.
However a very practicing brother one day emailed her and told her that he was interested in marrying her.
At first she was hesistant to reply, but soon she did and she got to know him through their families. They too are both different races but it's their religion that unites them. MashaAllah now they have been married for over a year and are so happy with each other. May Allah continue to add blessings in their marriage and may Allah also bless you with a pious wife.
From your sister in islam

Thanks for the response, it was quite interesting to read.
He's not really your ex(I'm assuming you mean ex-boyfriend) if you weren't in a relationship. But I understand what you're saying.
I also first saw her at an Islamic event.
I have a lot of respect for this guy. He told his parents and asked mutual friends. Two things which I'm too shy to do. I also have a lot of respect that his parents organised something for you to get to know eachother with their company. The problem is that my parents live in a different city to hers and are very busy so it's harder for them to do that.
I am in the same uni but I don't see her a lot, but I guess that is a possibility if I see her again(If I develop the courage)

He was my ex because we were in a relationship for almost 2 months, with the permission of my parents..and we got engaged so that it can be a period for us getting to know one another in a halal way. It wasn't his parents that organised it..his parents live in another country but they flew here just to meet me at the event! They also visited my house but i assumed that they were just my mums friends..anyway it was my mum who kept meeting the guy and making plans on how me and him can get closer discreetly without me noticing anything which actually worked because when I met him I wasn't shocked or anything because He looked familiar. In your case i think you should make yourself more visible to her so that she knows that you exist and make an effort to talk to her...you never know what this May lead to I mean if my ex hadn't made those advances then we would have never been together! Be optimistic and confident in yourself and inshallah Allah will make it happen