For as long as I can remember I've been suffering from depression.
I have a poor self-image, due to being fat and hideous. I was bullied all throughout my life which understandably caused me to become reserved, "docile" was used by one of my friends this weekend to describe me.
I think that because I was reserved, I started putting up a barrier and developed an abrasive or rude personality. I've been called a 'monster', 'the devil' 'horrible' you name it, I've been called it by enemies, strangers, former lovers. ect. Despite this I've managed to make lasting friendships, I've been friends with my four best friends for over 5 years, one of them a decade next year.
My romantic endeavors always suffer as well because of how bad my depression is. The few One Night Stands I've had have been fine, and fun, it's more the relationships that are bad. I pick out these girls and we have fun and it goes well, then it slowly gets worse and spirals out of control. Generally this causes the women I date to become horrible towards me, verbally or emotionally. Then there my recent ex (who had her own problems) spent the three months we were together kicking the **** out of me, so that was fun. My last partner told me that I changed during the relationship and got bitter, angry and it seemed like I just couldn't stand being around her. The thing is, I completely get that I do change, but it's because the girls in question will do something that hurts me in said relationship, and it's like from that moment on I lose total respect for them.
Even if they didn't mean to hurt me, or if it wasn't all that big a deal. It's like depression wont let it go, it poisons every interaction with them from then on and makes the relationship toxic. I understand that the depression makes bad things worse, but honestly, I do the same thing in working or friendship relationships too. As soon as someone, intentionally or not, does something to directly or indirectly hurt me, they unconsciously become an enemy to me. I'm not a violent person, I'll completely brush them off, be civil if need be, but generally not give an enemy the time of day nor do I do literally anything for them. Even if it's detrimental to my own life.
My depression, personality and looks have cost me jobs in the past, and I feel pretty much unemployable.
I'm on medication, which doesn't work so far, but I guess I need to give it time. I've been to counseling as well, but having some nurse say "oh you can't be that bad a person if you've got friends and had relationships" that is really not how it works. My family say the same thing, you've got people who love you, why are you sad? Urg.
I just feel like I'm drowning between having horrible abusive relationships, looking in the mirror and seeing some ugly monster, and the fact I'm unemployable makes me think I've got no future and I can't see the light.
Urg I dunno why I even wrote all this. This is a god damn nightmare.