A person who is "normal" dating someone who has an illness

Like learning dificulties
Or you know them people who are like 20 something years old but have the brains of 8 year olds.
Only asking cos i remember reading someone on here (cant remember the tread) saying that they dont agree with it because the person is probably trying to take advantage.
what are your views

But an illness by definition is a deviation from the norm, hence not normal. His wording was fine. I seriously doubt OP was trying to cause offence or anything by this. At least it doesn't read that way to me.

Then I would question if they had the ability to consent. At which point I think it would be immoral for an able minded person to date or have sex with them.

OP may not have purposely meant to insult or cause offence i understand that but i don't feel it's right to imply that someone is not normal because they have an illness. It's terms like 'not normal' that cause people with illnesses, to feel excluded. I dont even like the word illness its not really an illness, that implies theres something wrong, it's a condition.

P.S. before anyone starts on the whole technically there is something wrong with them. Don't. Most people who have any type of condition view themselves as being normal they dont need anyone telling them otherwise.

Sorry for the massive rant but i feel this had to be said.



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OP may not have purposely meant to insult or cause offence i understand that but i don't feel it's right to imply that someone is not normal because they have an illness. It's terms like 'not normal' that cause people with illnesses, to feel excluded. I dont even like the word illness its not really an illness, that implies theres something wrong, it's a condition.

P.S. before anyone starts on the whole technically there is something wrong with them. Don't. Most people who have any type of condition view themselves as being normal they dont need anyone telling them otherwise.

Sorry for the massive rant but i feel this had to be said.



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I appreciate your sentiment however you're wrong. If there was nothing wrong with them then they wouldn't have an illness. The definition of illness is that they are both abnormal and that they have something wrong with them where "wrong" is defined as a disability with regards to one's ability to fully function in society.

Of course that is not to say that we should frown upon them, treat them like dogs, lock them up in asylums, call them crazy and otherwise ignore everything they say. Obviously not. But to suggest that they are perfectly fine would be to completely miss the point. The whole idea of mental illness is that by definition a world in which nobody was mentally ill is a world that is better, at least in the long-run if not the short-run but probably in the short-run too.

i agree with this.
i would go as far as to say that people that do this are predators.
also i think you was the person that i got the thread idea from

I appreciate your sentiment however you're wrong. If there was nothing wrong with them then they wouldn't have an illness. The definition of illness is that they are both abnormal and that they have something wrong with them where "wrong" is defined as a disability with regards to one's ability to fully function in society.

Of course that is not to say that we should frown upon them, treat them like dogs, lock them up in asylums, call them crazy and otherwise ignore everything they say. Obviously not. But to suggest that they are perfectly fine would be to completely miss the point. The whole idea of mental illness is that by definition a world in which nobody was mentally ill is a world that is better, at least in the long-run if not the short-run but probably in the short-run too.

OP may not have purposely meant to insult or cause offence i understand that but i don't feel it's right to imply that someone is not normal because they have an illness. It's terms like 'not normal' that cause people with illnesses, to feel excluded. I dont even like the word illness its not really an illness, that implies theres something wrong, it's a condition.