I can also relate to this, for most of my life I felt guilty about feeling anger to my own parents, and even fear, because I was not allowed to recognize how they behaved (I was a child, still dependent on them). In fact I rarely even felt any anger when I was younger, it was all suppressed, I constantly had to distract myself from these feelings through addiction, which always lead to depression as a result.
Not only that, but I feel that most people, even my closest friends, always take the side of parents, even if they treated me destructively.
And because of this taboo, and pressure from other people to "stop complaining" (or forgive) it makes me feel alone with what I went through.
At the moment, I have just used Alice Miller's books and tried to deal with my feelings myself.
I feel that most therapist would just pressure me to forgive and manipulate how I feel towards my parents?
Have you had this experience too?
I'm interested though, what has happened to all that anger and resentment, how have you dealt with it? (I mean the feelings you had towards your parents)
For me, I try my best to deal with them consciously, but sometimes my "repression" wins, and I prefer to be depressed (or addicted), rather than to feel so angry and disappointed all the time.
But on the other hand when I do succeed in being in contact with my emotions, I feel much more in control of my life.
Again thank you for being here