My Girlfriend of nearly 3 years just cheated on me. should i forgive?

I'd give the girl one last chance. To be honest her guilt might actually save the relationship.

As for the guy. get some boys in with some pliers and a blow torch, and get Medieval on his arse. I swear to God i'd make the **** suffer.

So you'd give the cheating girlfriend another chance, but the random guy who has no absolutely no obligation to you should be tortured? You seem like a totally rational human being.

I wouldn't want to lose my gf of 3 whom I love, and I'd want to beat up the ****er who knowingly blackmailed my longterm gf into having sex.

If that makes me irrational then i don't even care.

Did you even read the OP? She didn't have sex with him.



Haha enjoy your criminal charges and the fact she'll probably cheat on you again anyway

he tried to get a girl who is in a relationship to have sex with him through black mail. That's a beat-the-crap-out-of-himable offence in my book. If i were careful he couldn't prove it was me if he was inclined to press charges.

If she cheated on me again i'd get rid, but she wouldn't necessarily do it again. In a long term relationship I have a one chance rule, even though i'd be pretty distraught.

I don't understand how you can't see that she's more at fault here. If she hadn't been flirting with him in the first place, he would've never even been in a position to blackmail her. Even after all of that she could've just you know.. not sent the nudes. I bet OP would've been much more forgiving if she just told him in the first place.

She went behind OP's back and flirted with another guy on her own accord.

It would have been easier for her to sleep with him than tell her bf to be fair. But as said, i have a one chance rule. Also, black mailing for sex is much worse than flirting ffs.

She wont stop messaging me about how shes been living in fear that he would tell me.

She claims she was forced into all of this and whenever she refused he would threaten to tell me.

but it would've been so much easier to explain the flirting than the nudes. This was a very poor decision on her part.

"Was" being the operative word, given the age of the thread.