Parents want me to fail in life.

I always thought Asians were big on education. All the Asians I know (male and female) are under massive parental pressure to excel. (Btw I'm assuming you're Asian)


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Do apply for uni, don't let your parents know about it

Omg! That's so mean! I really hope you go to a good uni because you seen like such an intelligent girl. I know this may sound bad but u need to be independent and rebellious cos your parents should not restrict you from education. I think you should definitely go for the work experience and go to university regardless of what your parents say. I'm assuming you want to study medicine because of the subjects you chose and I think you have such a bright future ahead of you.
Go for it and do what you like!!

Good luck on everything xo


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Parents want me to fail in life so I can end up being a housewife.

During GCSE's, hardly allowed to study. Go home, cook for the family (youngest, but stupidly aged 13ish, I wanted to learn how to cook, so I did). Had no time when I'd go home from school, so I'd end up waking up 5AM to study. It was hard, especially because my secondary school wasn't great, so I had to self-teach everything.

Now done with GCSE's, I do Maths, Chemistry, Biology and Psychology.
I have been trying to study a lot, but parent's have a problem with me being in my room for too long. I even asked my mum if i could buy Revision Guides etc, she said "Why do you need a book, what are teachers and school for?" But ended up buying them anyway lel.
I done work experience this summer and carried on for 3 months, when my mum was away on holiday. It was a great experience, and I enjoyed it. Was at an elderly care home, but after my mum came back, she said i couldn't go anymore, and I'm attached to the elderly people there

Now, looking for work experience again, I have been accepted at a GP, not far away either. I told my mum, and she said no and that you don't need work experience "Clean the house, and cook for us; that is work experience for you." They are unbelievable, and do not understand anything. They think that they are still in the 1970s, back in their hometown.

I also want to go away for University, but this is a 100% no no
I don't know what to do

I would say you need to try and be more assertive with them to be honest, you sound like you're just letting them steam roll over you and dominate your every choice. Not to offend your mother but she sounds a tad stupid by preventing you from furthering yourself. Don't become some housewife because they forced you on that path

Just become a housewife and get a husband. This is the best thing to do and parents always know whats best for their children

Also why does housewife = failure? Ridiculous

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Ugh, I hate Asian parents (speaking from experience).

From what I take it, you want to study medicine, or something allied to that field. It is crucial for you to get as much work experience as possible, along with getting an amazing set of grades. That is your primary purpose right now.

You cannot be submissive. You have to fight for what you want with every ounce of strength you have, because no one, not even parents, have the right to take away your goals. If you really want to get somewhere, you have to be strong and not easily swayed by your parents.

Talk to your parents first. Tell them what you want for yourself. Be firm, but diplomatic. Try (pretend) to show that you understand where they're coming from but tell them that you have a plan for yourself, and that is the one you wish to stick to. If they love you, they would want you to do what you want. Don't be naive or weak. Asian parents tend to manipulate and scare their children in order to put them in line and that is nothing short of abuse. If you live in the UK, and your parents are making you miserable and not listening to you at all, then I would suggest speaking to child services. I don't have that in my country, but if I did, I would have used it on my father a long time ago.

Basically, my father was so opposed to me taking a gap year in order to reapply for medicine (it's tough to get in, especially as an international!), that he insisted I take a 3 year course (my fallback option). I refused. I put up a fight. Smashed my exams. Put my foot down to every suggestion of his, and often spoke back to him whenever he would reprimand me for taking a year off. He would become scary (especially since he was an alcoholic too), but I thought long and hard about this.It's my future. He could die and I'd be doing some course I'm not even passionate about. No thanks. when it comes to my future, I'll do as I please. It's my right.

It's yours too.