Is it rude to not tolerate smokers?

Okay so my bestfriends smoke and I don't, and whenever they go out to smoke (when we're in college) I just leave them and stay in. It's not that big of a problem right now, because they don't smoke a lot; but what if they did? My mother's friend smokes constantly, she's a really nice person but I hate it when she smokes and my mother doesn't mind it and says that I'm being whiny because I don't tolerate it. Like one time we were playing poker (family thing) and she was smoking and it really annoyed me, I think she noticed and put out the cigarette which made my mother a little mad. So is rude not to tolerate smokers?

Reply 1

BullViagra

15

yes it is rude to pander to pussified pc whining about secondhand smoking etc

Reply 2

Schrödingers Cat

16

No it's not rude, why should your health suffer because of someone else's life choice?

Reply 3

SiminaM

15

There rude thing is to smoke around people who obviously can't stand it. I mean if you don't like the smoke, why the hell should they blow it on you or near you? Maybe it stings your eyes not to say that smoke is ****ing disgusting and it smells awful.
There's nothing wrong with you. Your mother is really bitchy about this, no offense. Why should you tolerate something that bothers you? Just to be polite about a filthy habit?

Reply 4

Lyrical Prodigy

19

Not really. Why should you have to tolerate inhaling harmful fumes that are bad for your lungs? As long as you're not actually stopping them from doing it themselves then I don't see the problem. Their life style choice, their issue.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 5

Kerrias

13

I think it depends. If somebody knows that you don't like smoking and is continuing to show no consideration to that and will blow smoke to your direction or if you are forced to be near them I can see why that might irritate you. But at the same time, people are allowed to be smokers and where do you expect them to smoke?

I am a smoker and my best friend doesn't like smoke, I will always let myself fall a few steps back before I light up or tell her I will catch up with her in a minute or two. But that does get on my nerves if she is whining constantly, for example if I am in my own home and have warned her so she can leave the room if she wants.

I think its about being reasonable. If you have reasonable expectations about the level of respect you expect to recieve from a smoker, as someone who's chosen to be a non-smoker, and they ignore you then it is rude of them. If you are expecting people to never smoke or to be too pandering to you just because you don't like smoke, then I would describe you as unreasonable.

My rule of thumb would be that it iis your right to choose to be a non smoker and to not be exposed to smoke, but it is also the right of others to choose to be a smoker if they want.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 6

Drunk Punx

19

Smokers should respect the lifestyle choice of those who don't smoke just as non-smokers should respect the lifestyle choice of those that do.

As long as they're not smoking in your house when you previously denied them that honour, or blowing it directly into your eyes, what's the big deal? I stopped smoking a couple of years ago and now I realise just how badly tailor-made cigs reek, but I've never condemned them for it.

Reply 7

constantino_chr

10

No, I'm strongly anti-smoking and detest it when my peers come in after break and lunchtimes and sit near me stinking of cigarettes (mixed with BO and cheap aftershave is the WORST). At the end of the day you shouldn't have to tolerate it or allow people to recklessly smoke near you because smoking is a choice, they aren't forced to and so inflicting possible health problems onto you through second-hand smoke is disrespectful.

Reply 8

the bear

20

Smoking is anti-social and weird. However there is no point antagonising your friends...

Reply 9

Okkefac

11

Unless you're going into their house (in which case if you can't put up with the smoke you should arguably leave) then you're totally in your right to expect them to stop, especially if it's in your house.

You're not in the wrong, as said before, you have to let them smoke, but they shouldn't be doing it around someone who's uncomfortable with it. They can smoke in their own house when they're on their own, or go outside and do it if whoever is uncomfortable with it.

Reply 10

Hal.E.Lujah

19

Sorry but when someone is at the bus stop, stinking the place up, I have to choose between smelling like them all day or standing somewhere else. I choose not to tolerate them stinking everyone around them up.

But on the flip side of that, it would be out of line for me to tell them to stop or what not unless it was a forced cramped space. So I would say it's circumstantial, if I was forced to be around them and they were smoking I would say it wasnt rude, but if you're not forced to stand near them and you want them to stop then that's out of line.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 11

Gjaykay

11

Original post by gagafacea1

Okay so my bestfriends smoke and I don't, and whenever they go out to smoke (when we're in college) I just leave them and stay in. It's not that big of a problem right now, because they don't smoke a lot; but what if they did? My mother's friend smokes constantly, she's a really nice person but I hate it when she smokes and my mother doesn't mind it and says that I'm being whiny because I don't tolerate it. Like one time we were playing poker (family thing) and she was smoking and it really annoyed me, I think she noticed and put out the cigarette which made my mother a little mad. So is rude not to tolerate smokers?

Yes it rude. I tolerate other people's want to be in a smoke free environment whilst drinking, so I go outside for a fag in the pub. THEN I hear people bitching because smokers are OUTSIDE the door, despite the fact in Scotland it's pretty much raining all the time.

The amount of intolerant and stuck up judgmental people is unbelievable. I put up and tolerate so much of strangers with their smells, annoying voices, looking like Jeremy Kyle Show-esq Drug Addicts, having to avoid pricks left and right 'cause you never know who is carrying a knife. Putting up with ****ty drivers, (one ****ty driver just literally KILLED a bunch of people in George Square) people throwing garbage left, right and center. Listening to people who drink loads of coffee a day then claim moral superiority despite the fact I can go a day without a cig, can you go a day without at least one cup of coffee? No? Look in the mirror before you call someone an addict. No, I'm the problem.

Welcome to Multicultural Britain, where if you're not in the majority, you're nothing but scum.

Thanks guys! Love you too, xoxo.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 12

Blue_Mason

10

Original post by constantino_chr

No, I'm strongly anti-smoking and detest it when my peers come in after break and lunchtimes and sit near me stinking of cigarettes (mixed with BO and cheap aftershave is the WORST). At the end of the day you shouldn't have to tolerate it or allow people to recklessly smoke near you because smoking is a choice, they aren't forced to and so inflicting possible health problems onto you through second-hand smoke is disrespectful.

That typical Londoner smell mixed with caffeine and soap detergent
Agreed that public smokers are disgusting cretin

Reply 13

constantino_chr

10

Original post by Blue_Mason

That typical Londoner smell mixed with caffeine and soap detergent
Agreed that public smokers are disgusting cretin

Hi five!

Plus as a Londoner myself I thought I'd be more tolerant of it, guess not...

Reply 14

Annabelle-xx

5

Original post by BullViagra

yes it is rude to pander to pussified pc whining about secondhand smoking etc

It's just as bad

Reply 15

SarcasticMel

2

Original post by BullViagra

yes it is rude to pander to pussified pc whining about secondhand smoking etc

Alright, let me punch you in the face. And don't say no, you aren't a pussified pc whining twit are you?

Reply 16

username1599987

OP

12

Thank you guys so much for your help; I don't know why some of you are so angry, it's not like I insulted smokers.

Original post by Gjaykay

Yes it rude. I tolerate other people's want to be in a smoke free environment whilst drinking, so I go outside for a fag in the pub...

I'm sorry that you have to tolerate so much, but if we're gonna play that game, then non-smokers have to tolerate a more than YOU, we have to tolerate the smell of smoke that sticks to us the whole day, the toxic gases that DO cause lung cancer + the things you mentioned above! We win lol. And after reading all the comments and thinking about it, your suicidal habits that harms other people aren't tolerated by the government, so why should I? My friends are lovely people who smoke, that doesn't mean I'm going to go near them when they're smoking or let them smoke in my home.

Reply 17

Schrödingers Cat

16

Original post by Gjaykay

Yes it rude. I tolerate other people's want to be in a smoke free environment whilst drinking, so I go outside for a fag in the pub. THEN I hear people bitching because smokers are OUTSIDE the door, despite the fact in Scotland it's pretty much raining all the time.

The amount of intolerant and stuck up judgmental people is unbelievable. I put up and tolerate so much of strangers with their smells, annoying voices, looking like Jeremy Kyle Show-esq Drug Addicts, having to avoid pricks left and right 'cause you never know who is carrying a knife. Putting up with ****ty drivers, (one ****ty driver just literally KILLED a bunch of people in George Square) people throwing garbage left, right and center. Listening to people who drink loads of coffee a day then claim moral superiority despite the fact I can go a day without a cig, can you go a day without at least one cup of coffee? No? Look in the mirror before you call someone an addict. No, I'm the problem.

Welcome to Multicultural Britain, where if you're not in the majority, you're nothing but scum.

Thanks guys! Love you too, xoxo.

The difference between coffee and smoking is that coffee prevents cancer while smoking causes it

Reply 18

Tiger Rag

22

For some of us, second hand smoke can cause us serious healht issues. And I don't want my clothes smelling of smoke either.

Thankfully, very few of my friends smoke and those who do, aren't selfish about it.