Shy!! and Quiet Personalities Why?

People think I am shy, the truth is that I just don't care. I don't talk to people because I don't want to talk to them. Yet they always insist on talking to me or sitting next to me. I basically find everybody but myself tedious and boring. I am interested in things the vast major of people haven't even thought about and I know a great deal about these interests so when I talk to people about them it is like banging my head against a brick wall.

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What?

Just made me laugh at the fact you don't find anyone but yourself interesting


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Why is this funny?

I find somethings that other people say interesting. However I don't find them as people interesting. I just don't care where you are going next Friday or that your mother who I have never meet has just fallen ill. I can't do small talk.

Why is this funny?

I find somethings that other people say interesting. However I don't find them as people interesting. I just don't care where you are going next Friday or that your mother who I have never meet has just fallen ill. I can't do small talk.

Okayyy it's just I've never met someone like that


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Well you should tick it off your bucket list and meet me then. Since I am the only person like this.

It's nice to have a concern for people, even those you don't know. I have that concern naturally and so do quite a few nice people I know. I really don't get people who don't have concern for people just because they don't know them or know them well enough.

Also, if you feel so unfulfilled in conversation, you're probably just not hanging around with intelligent enough or like-minded people. I consider myself intelligent and provided the person I'm conversating with is smart and open-minded enough, I am capable of having quite stimulating discussions with others...

Hi OP. I would consider myself to have quite a bit of experience with this subject, having been the notoriously 'shy, quiet' girl at school, and then having broken slowly out of my shell and become very much more confident within myself as well as forthright in expressing my opinions, and generally a lot more relaxed and interested in people and therefore a lot more fun to be around. I let myself go much more nowadays, and as such my life and the lives of those around me has become more pleausurable.

I wouldn't say that the shy are hated at all - indeed diffferent people have different preferences for different personality types. Some like you, prefer the quieter; others prefer the louder. However there are a few general things that can be naturally off-putting, a few traits that shy people naturally possess (and trust me I have exhibited these before) - one of these traits is shy people risk appearing dull, and that is not to say they are dull - more that because they don't take the risks of spontaneity in conversating or meeting with people,(e.g. little jokes or interesting comments), they risk appearing boring, even if of course, they are not in reality. A lot of shy or quiet people of course have interesting things to remark, but in holding back and not taking risks, no one benefits - those around them or themselves and a dull time is had in social situations. Shy people may also unintentionally out of their shyness, exhibit behaviours such as excessive nervous giggling, lack of eye-contact or appearing disinterested in others - all of which can give reason to believe they are up to something. None of this is calculated - it is just that body language gives off vibes that human beings innately pick up on - and social anxiety or shyness can unfortunately deliver that vibe that the person is up to something or insincere.


Sorry but this is bordering on sexist. Why should girls have to be shy to be considered 'the most beautiful?' Yes overly self-assured women who don't show any consideration for those around them are off-putting and can be repulsive, but that doesn't mean it is any better to be shy or that there is something wrong with a self-assured woman who knows what her opinions and her self-worth is. Being louder is not a negative trait in women and we should not have to feel that we need to be submissive to be considered 'beautiful' - whatever that means. Additionally people dont criticise girls for being shy, I've noticed so long as they are attractive it's fine by society, and in fact society like a very pretty women to be shy. Which women we find appealing is far more determined by physical traits than their demeanour or behaviour (with the exception of extremes like Miley Cyrus!) and that is a point where society is unfair and shallow.



This is a huge mistake you are making - louder, more garrulous people can be equally honest, truthful and innocent, and indeed more quiet or shy types can theoretically be calculating or devious. I mean how loud you are, I'm sure has no correlation with your honesty. In fact, if a person hardly uttered a word to another human being, I think people would be more suspicious that they were up to something, than if they exchanged pleasantries and a kind word with you every day.

You also haven't taken into account that people behave differently in certain situations - in a new work environment or college, where everyone is new, 90% of people would be behaving in a shy or nervous way as they are apprehensive of others. Yet if they were around old friends they would be far more garrulous. Really, we shouldn't be putting people into the box of 'shy' or 'loud' because that is simply not how we work - we are complex beings that exhibit a range of emotions and different levels of confidence in different situations...

No you are not

Good for you that I don't care.

xD I love this guy

Thankyou for taking time and explaining. I didnt mean to be sexist its just that its seems quite natural for girls to be shy and quiet. This doesnt mean confident women are not beautiful or anything.
Usually people who are naturally shy are honest and truthful, same goes for people who are loud straight to the point, bold and fearless.

Why is this funny?

I find somethings that other people say interesting. However I don't find them as people interesting. I just don't care where you are going next Friday or that your mother who I have never meet has just fallen ill. I can't do small talk.

It's not the actual content of small talk that is important. of course. It's the fact that you are including people in the conversation and making an effort to be pleasant.

Small talk is a skill which is very important therefore particularly when in the company of people who may not have many opportunities for social meetings.

If you can chat to that quiet person in the corner, that rather elderly, a little deaf person, that young rather shy person etc. you have learned skills which will be an asset all your life. It's an ability to put yourself in the shoes of someone else and empathise rather than condemn or criticise.

Well you should tick it off your bucket list and meet me then. Since I am the only person like this.