I feel like im never going to find anyone, not a boyfriend, not a husband :(

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Don't judge uni on first year. Especially when you've only had ~3/4 months of it.

Don't be so fixated on immediacy. Some things don't happen instantaneously. And nor should they.

Reply 21

username927016

Original post by Anonymous

Hey don't worry about it I'm sure you'll find someone in due course, you're still young. In the meantime I'd say just focus on your studies & improving yourself self-esteem & confidence. At Uni I didn't really have anyone to talk to/hang out with myself so it was pretty tough. Trust me things will get better, at least you have some close friends who you can ask for some feedback on what they think of you & what things you need to improve on, maybe meet their friends to increase your social circle & joins clubs/societies if you haven't already. Perhaps you've just been unlucky with the people you've met but keep going & don't let it bring you down! :smile:

Reply 22

*Thedreaming*

I feel the same.

There's more to life though.

Reply 23

MissLalaxx

Original post by GeorgeBuxey94

I mean, we could all start a 'single and happy' club, but thats bull**** anyway :cheeky:

Honestly for once I've accepted my singleness and do not want to go into a relationship soon. Bet you now that that's when someone will come along. :rolleyes:

Reply 24

GeorgeBuxey94

Original post by MissLalaxx

Honestly for once I've accepted my singleness and do not want to go into a relationship soon. Bet you now that that's when someone will come along. :rolleyes:

I just feel like I don't wanna mess around, and I'm mature enough to be in a proper relationship..idk

Reply 25

MissLalaxx

Original post by GeorgeBuxey94

I just feel like I don't wanna mess around, and I'm mature enough to be in a proper relationship..idk

Yeah same. I'm not looking for a fling or anything and that's all that seems to be coming my way. So I'm fine being by myself for a bit.

Reply 26

GeorgeBuxey94

Original post by MissLalaxx

Yeah same. I'm not looking for a fling or anything and that's all that seems to be coming my way. So I'm fine being by myself for a bit.

Nah, I'm not even lucky enough for fling..Literally, 0% attention

Reply 27

Catholic_

Original post by Sky_Dream

I'm a bit older than you but I feel the same. I've had a couple of relationships and been on a few successful dates but nothing more than that. Never mind, if I'm 50 and still haven't found "the one" there are always cats.

Wonna go out on a date?

Reply 28

Sky_Dream

Original post by Catholic_

Wonna go out on a date?

I'm probably much too old for you.

Reply 29

fluffylittlecat

It's early days yet! Don't let this get you down. I have very few friends at uni also so I know how you feel. :smile:

Reply 30

Eboracum

Original post by Sky_Dream

Don't lose the hope Sky Dream. It's a new year. Be positive. You don't need to be a crazy cat lady just yet.

What's the best date you've ever been on?

Reply 31

sr90

Volunteer Team

I've already thought of names for my future cats.

More chance of Blair becoming Prime Minister again than I have of ever meeting someone.

Reply 32

Sky_Dream

Original post by Eboracum

Don't lose the hope Sky Dream. It's a new year. Be positive. You don't need to be a crazy cat lady just yet.

What's the best date you've ever been on?

Haha thank you Eboracum. A new year, a fresh chance I suppose. I've been on a few excellent dates, but is it bad that I disregard that as I'm still a single pringle and obviously nothing has come of it?

Reply 33

MissLalaxx

Original post by GeorgeBuxey94

Nah, I'm not even lucky enough for fling..Literally, 0% attention

Aw don't worry someone will come along. You never know there might be that one person who could be secretly eyeing you up..

Reply 34

colourtheory

Original post by Anonymous

Ive just started my university studies this year and i found it overwhelming. I havent made as many friends as i thought i would but i did make a few very close friends, so it is not as bad as it could have been.

However, at uni i started having these thoughts about never finding anyone and it is making me depressed. I have had guys tell me i am pretty/beautiful so i don't think the problem is in my looks, but rather in my personality, and i just cant figure it out- what am i doing wrong? Is it the way I talk? or maybe im awkward?

Since I came to uni Ive been feeling really stupid and uninteresting, im attending a top university and everyone i have met seemed nice but the problem is that i talk to people but they never add me on facebook or continue conversation some other time and i just feel so rejected :frown:

I see everyone around me socialising and making friends and im just staying in my room crying myself to sleep and its pathetic.

Did anyone else feel like this at some point in their life? how did you cope?

It takes time and effort. Good men don't just drop out of the sky you know; anything worth having is worth working for. The problem with a lot of teen books or romances these days is that everyone expects the perfect person to find them and declare passionate love but if everyone is so busy focussing on themselves then surely you're missing those people who could just about be perfect for you?

Also, the road to a relationship is rocky and it takes a few people / flings before you can identify those people who you'd be willing to invest time in; you need to learn from each and every experience as these will help you pick out potential partners! And who cares if you're awkward or talk about stupid things?! The whole point is that you're looking for someone who appreciates you for who you are!! If they have a problem with you then they're not worth having around :smile:

Relationships are supposed to enhance your life and not give it purpose; you can't expect the other person to act as a tonic to iron out all your insecurities because that puts a huge amount of pressure and expectation upon the shoulders of the other person.

Perhaps it might be worth focussing on yourself to start with? Why do you have issues with your self worth? Do men sense that you need emotional fulfilment that outstrips what they can reasonably provide? Are you looking for somebody who can completely change the way you think about yourself? Is this at all reasonable? Just some questions to think about.

Reply 35

GeorgeBuxey94

Original post by MissLalaxx

Aw don't worry someone will come along. You never know there might be that one person who could be secretly eyeing you up..

I hope so, there's a seriously cute girl at BandSoc I'm kinda into

Reply 36

Confusedlegend

Message me and have chat with me if you want

Reply 37

lachachacha

Original post by Anonymous

I feel the exact same! althgh I haven't started uni yet, I start nxtt year

Reply 38

Eboracum

Original post by Sky_Dream

Any time.

Nah, don't discard them. They are ones for you to talk about when you meet your friends for girly lunches. You'll be able to pretend to your friends that the guy that took you out was as romantic as DiCaprio in Titanic. :tongue:

What is it with girls calling themselves single pringles? This the new thing?

Reply 39

Sky_Dream

Original post by Eboracum

What is it with girls calling themselves single pringles? This the new thing?

Haha yes but then I have to make up an excuse as to why I am not going out with him again! Plus, I much prefer to go to a pub than have girly lunches.

Is it not a cool expression? It is the first time I've used it but I admit to being rather out of the loop as to what's cool anymore.

Have you been on any interesting dates recently, Eboracum?