Men want virgins to marry. Let me explain please.

If a man has slept with many women and yet he requires his woman to be a virgin, he is a bad person and a hypocrite.

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You weren't raised being taught these things so I get your confusion. Virginity does not measure what kind of person is inside so why put so much emphasis on it. If you are my friend virgin or no virgin I don't care. Just as long as we can be weird together then No p.

Not really, people are allowed whatever standards they want in a partner eg even if someone is extremely stupid they might have a preference of an intelligent partner. This doesn't make them a bad person, it just means they'll find it harder to meet someone acceptable.

It's harder for a man to sleep around.

Yeah, if it's the case of some persons in a society, but if they (almost all) shame non-virgins etc. etc. and create an oppressive society where men are allowed to do everything and women are allowed to do nothing, it's evil for me.

No problem with having that attitude towards sex, sounds quite similar to mine. But to expect women to remain chaste whereas men can do whatever they want just sounds really misogynistic

Women are allowed to do whatever they want, they should just be aware that it will make them less attractive to a minority of men. It's not even close to all men.

Aye, I can understand that it's difficult to shake off what we were raised with. What we were raised with isn't always right, though. My mother told me that when I got a boyfriend and he wanted sex with me, I should do it, even if I wasn't ready, because it was his right and otherwise he'd go for someone else. Which is messed up.

All we can do is what feels right to us. If that means remaining a virgin until marriage, that's fine. If that means losing our virginity before marriage, that is fine, too. So long as it's our own decision - our bodies, our choice. Personally, I don't sleep around. I prefer to be in a loving relationship and I am with the man I want to marry (and he wants to marry me ). Each to their own, though.

Ok so maybe I am sheep. I am a Christian and in the bible it is obvious that it is preferable for women to be virgins. Since you said I cant think for myself, this Is what I think. Personally I want to be a virgin when I get married. Maybe because I think sex is an such an intimate act and shouldn't be done with just anybody but someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. Even if its with a boyfriend i would rather prefer to wait. I cant imagine doing it casually. Like it doesn't mean anything. Its going to be a man putting his manhood into me. I am that sort of person not comfortable with the thought of different men in that kind of position with me. To some its not that deep but for me it is. That's just me

What? We're talking about the Nigerian society here I think where it's the majority and they're taught to be like that.

I will say that people's opinions aren't necessarily well thought out and therefore truthful as to what they would do in reality. This modern society encourages sexual promiscuity and people's opinions will reflect support of society.

I will also say that you increase your value as a person (though perhaps only materially, but if you do deny temptation your mind will only grow stronger) 100 fold, depending on your future partner.

Either way don't be "virgin-shamed" by some sl00ts, I personally would rather be wed to a virgin than a girl who has ridden the cock carousel so much that her vajine is like bowl of fresh custard.

Irrelevant. It'll be difficult for an ugly girl to sleep around too.

No we're not, you made a general comment on men having requirements they can't meet themselves

I'm Nigerian also and i live in London. I am a virgin and intend to stay one until marriage due to my customs and beliefs. But many decide to lose their virginity earlier, which is fine as it's their choice. To be honest, there is more pressure to do sexual things with people when you're in a relationship. A lot of people "sext" and exchange nude pictures. Some enjoy this and are willing to have sex and some feel some what obligated to. I've never been in a relationship or even kissed a guy but i can see why some would want to be sexual active. I have to admit many do rush and some do end up regretting it, i think it's disgusting for 12 year olds having oral sex with people they claim they love, but i guess people just are in a rush to grow up. I think it's nice for one to save their virginity till marriage or at least for someone they genuinely love.