Depression of beign a bi plus studies !

Yeah im going through those typical teenage life but Im depressed to the point that i dont have the energy to move on. I have no one to go to, no one to let my heart out. No one to listen to me and im the same guy who has loads of friends .. no one stands by ur side when ur in need..
I just wanted some suggestions on what to do because im getting sick of almost everything.
Im a medic, I study most of the time.. giving some time for my boyfriend (im a bi) and sometime for exercising.. thats all what my life has.
My uni is great, its fun to go and I have fun with friends around. But I feel studying so many hours is making me depressed. Im sick of living a double life. Im sick of being a bi. Im sick of life.. what should i do? and im REALLY tired of studying.. :frown:

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Reply 1

Eternity Forever

Give yourself a break and go out to have some fun! Go out and meet new people, join a club and socialise, go clubbing etc.

Reply 2

matt@internet

Anonymous

Im sick of being a bi.

Can't change who you are.

Reply 3

supernova2

Find a girl get laid. Repent my child

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Thanku for ur "suggestions"

Your welcome.

hmmmmm..

dun worry ul be fine

Reply 7

matt@internet

What was the point of that?

Reply 8

Hel

Tell us more about this double life?

Reply 9

Chewwy

Uthman

hmmmmm..

dun worry ul be fine

rofl

Reply 10

matt@internet

Originally it was just

hmmmmm..

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

in much the same situation mate, feeling pretty down about it too. My solution was to just stop it all and smoke a load of weed - this is a bad idea btw and I don't recommend it because now i feel even worse. You don't have a reading week i take it? you could try going home for a few days, relax, watch some tv, don't worry about the work, ok yeah it'll be there when you get back but if you feel **** i reckon it's really hard to take anything in when your studying anyway so the few days break will make a massive difference to the amount you can learn just because your mind will feel rested.

if you think there's no one to talk to then maybe you could try calling nightline? your uni probably has one and they'll actuallysit and listen to you telling you them your problems. http://www.nightline.ac.uk/

good luck.

ps. i'm well glad someone else is tired of being bi, it's probably the thing getting me down most because can't tell people. apparently you don't have that problem though so good on ya. :smile:

Reply 12

gracie88

You're sick of being a bi? Hmm...

Reply 13

Anonymous #2

gracie88

You're sick of being a bi? Hmm...

i can't speak for the op but in my case it's like i'm leading two lives, i can't tell anyone and i feel weird about it because my friends are all totally straight. i feel out of place and don't want to freak them out.

Reply 14

Anonymous #3

Anonymous

Aaagh, I hate posting anonymous, but I've just started uni, have a new group of friends, some of whom I know post on here, and I don't want to freak them out, same as you. It's annoying because it's a part of me I can't really show and even though I've repressed it all through high school I sort of thought I might be able to talk about it at uni. I have a boyfriend and so I don't think they'd understand, I think they'd assume I wanted to cheat on him/split up with him for a woman, whereas I just want to be able to mention, I don't know, a woman's attractiveness in a casual conversation. It's not a serious enough thing for me to want to go to the LGBT society, it's just that it's as much a part of me as music or French and I want to be able to acknowledge it.

I guess it's because we've all only just met each other and no-one wants to weird each other out - well, maybe I'm the only person that would weird people out! We don't really have many of those "deep" discussions; well, a few, but mostly superficial and inoffensive. I guess I'll say when they're all a bit drunk or we're playing spin the bottle or something. Then it wouldn't seem like I was deliberately starting a conversation about it in some kind of attention-seeking way.

OP, you say that you're sick of being bi, but I'm not totally sure of your situation. Do your friends know you have a boyfriend? Is that the problem? Or are you just stressed because of your course and all of this is building up? (I know how you feel if that's it, though I don't get half as much work as you do...I have an awful lot of reading though and it's so hard to concentrate here.) Just hang on and wait until your friendships develop a bit deeper with these new friends; maybe call your old friends from home who will understand you better? Or talk to your boyfriend, of course. The nightline number might help, so you can discuss what to do in real time. Friendships take time so I think most people feel a bit lonely at uni to begin with.

Do you have any hobbies or are you a member of any societies? Maybe you could take something up and force yourself to make time for it; if it's in a society or something that involves lessons then you'll have pressure from other people to actually put in the time on your hobby. Learning an instrument or helping out in a play, maybe. Or some kind of art class?

Reply 15

generalebriety

Anonymous

Who says just because you're attracted to people of both sexes that you've leading two lives? That's like saying you like chocolate and cheese so you have two tongues. :rolleyes:

Reply 16

Anonymous #2

generalebriety

Who says just because you're attracted to people of both sexes that you've leading two lives? That's like saying you like chocolate and cheese so you have two tongues. :rolleyes:

no, it's not because of that. it's because of me liking both sexes and yet around people i know i can only like one sex because they think i'm straight.

I agree a lot with anonymous#3 is good advice. it's cool other people feel the same and nice to know.

Reply 17

generalebriety

Anonymous

Ah, now that makes more sense - I assumed you had come out to your friends. If not, why not? They're your friends for a reason. That's why people come out - they can't pretend to be something they're not all their lives.

Reply 18

Anonymous #2

generalebriety

why not?!! I don't know why not, because i'm terrified of what they'll think - yeah, I'm a wuss i know.

Reply 19

supernova2

you know all you bi/gay people, how do you expect other people to be comfortable with it when you guys aren't comfortable with it yourselves. If you cant even tell your mates then how do you expect them to ever come to terms with it. In most cases, they wont even care. I know plenty gay people and the only difference with them is sometimes we joke about it, other than that they're just like everyone else.