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Am I The Only Girl Who Has NO Intention Of Working/Having A Career

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Original post by Coben
I have no intention of working/having a career.
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I think I want to be a small business owner


So you want to own a small business that involves no work?

I predict it will do really well.
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OP, I love that idea.

Personally, I love science. I feel like it is the sole reason God allows me to wake up in the morning. But I would switch to a housewife any second if I could.
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Sorry, I just had to be immature.. :biggrin:

Seriously though, everyone's life is different. Everyone aspires to do something. You say you aspire to have children, be a mother. Hey, that's no easy job in itself! So, if you concentrate on that as your goal and don't have a job in the way to distract you, you're gonna raise some damn fine children!

One of my best ever friends who I was sadly a dick to and lost (cry me a river) always wanted just this. To settle down one day, have some kids, raise them well, care for them, spend time with them. If you wanted kids and were working 40 - 80 hours a week, would that be better or worse for your soon-to-exist children? It's all a balance.

Find what you really want in life and follow your heart. Obviously you're not always going to make the right choices, but try your best and your friends and family will guide you along the path you want to follow.

Best of luck! Hope everything works out well for you. :smile:
I would complete your title with "...in the UK", seeing as a hella lot of women share your desire in other countries.

1. Having your own business, as someone said, is far more difficult/rewarding than being employed - you should think that "counts", and therefore you do want to work

2. You definitely don't want to depend on someone for a living, so does the business come before the children chronologically?

3. Children really won't stay a full time occupation forever; one day they'll just flee! Or not... I guess you could have a 30-year old playing Xbox all day :indiff: Still though, they'll be themselves full time gaming and telling you to piss off unless you're bringing food

4. It's perfectly normal and even desirable to resent the rat race type of lifestyle. Aspiring to be self-employed is a great thing; as long as you time these events well, I see nothing wrong with it at all. Many people would be jealous of someone who can afford to do what they like and spend time with their children properly.
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I know exactly what you mean, OP. I'm happy for the man to be the main breadwinner in my future family.
If you're in a relationship where you've both graduated from University, and you're both going into high-flying careers, you could get moved all over the country. So you could end up down south, and your husband up north, miles apart. How is that going to work? Also, if you want to raise children it's near impossible if you both have demanding jobs: someone has to cut down their hours. Given that it's the woman who goes through pregnancy and childbirth, they're the partner that has to take maternity leave and usually has to sacrifice their job for their kids. Usually when this happens, the woman returns to work a few years later in a lower paid job. I'm not encouraging women to scrounge off their husbands and never work, I totally disagree with that. My mother doesn't work and is entirely dependent on my father so she becomes a 'scapegoat' and it's horrible. However, at the same time I admire career-driven women. If they want a high-flying career then good on them - it's a world where everyone has freedom of choice. And being in a world where we have freedom of choice, we, as women, should not be afraid to admit if we don't want high flying careers - this kind of feminist criticism is wrong.
I haven't read all the replies, but if I were you, I would try and get a job for a little while with an independent business - in particular, see if you can go to networking meetings on their behalf or see if you can find a networking group that will allow you to go independently without a business to promote. You will learn how much work goes into running your own business - often the business owners are earning much less (if you break it down to the hours put in) than their staff. It isn't easy running your own business - and that is after you manage to find something you can actually 'sell' - whether that be a product or service.

Working from home/having your own business is NOTHING like not working.

On the feminism side; I categorically am a feminist and feminism is about men and women having equal opportunity to choose to pursue a career/be a home-maker/combination and not be restricted by economic discrimination or taboo.
Original post by Octohedral
Sorry - my post was in two parts. The first line was unrelated to the rest. An academic is not a house-husband.


Ah, my sincere apologies then ^^ I got confused because I was too dumb to notice the two parts xD Great start for an academic career, eh? ;D
As long as you realise that owning a business still requires an awful lot of work, and that looking after kids and a house at the same time isn't going to be easy either, then you do whatever you want.
Original post by Skyy9432
Ah, my sincere apologies then ^^ I got confused because I was too dumb to notice the two parts xD Great start for an academic career, eh? ;D


Ha ha, just my poor writing skills. :tongue:
Original post by chazwomaq
Er....no


You have to do some teaching and lecturing, but it's nothing like the hours of a school teacher. If you're intelligent about the way you choose your specialism, you can go into virtually any area with your 'research', and even if you want to do something different you have more credibility and contacts with publishers. You can't write c**p, and you have to make a genuine contribution to academia, but you get a pretty good deal.

My Dad does work at a non-Russel group university though - I'd imagine there's more pressure at Oxford or Cambridge.
Original post by Coben
I'm 22 now and it's slowly dawned on me that I have no intention of working/having a career. I find most work boring and I am simply not inspired by the rat race. I think I want to be a small business owner and a stay at home mother.

It seems with feminism most women just aren't looking to go down the 'small job, husband and babies' route anymore. Am I the only one who doesn't want to work...at all ?

Maybe a small online store or something and a husband and kids. Nothing more (?)

Anyone else ?


Yeah, this dawned on me too once. But then I realised that my only options are to get a job or be homeless, so...
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Original post by TurboCretin
Yeah, this dawned on me too once. But then I realised that my only options are to get a job or be homeless, so...


This is why I'm firmly against women staying home and would never have one for a partner -- because it's not an option for men. I don't even want to stay at home myself but the fact that a man wanting to stay home would be castigated while women are lauded for the same thing is what makes it unacceptable.
Original post by Advanced Subsidiary


Feminism in this aspect, is about giving women the choice to do what they want in their working lives.

Someone correct me if I'm wrong.


Well yes and no. Feminism is ostensibly about equality, which means that the option to give up one's career to look after the kids should be as much an option for the dad as the mum. But you can't both give up your jobs.

So the choice is constrained by more than ideology. Whether or not you have a choice in reality will very much depend on practical considerations.
That's the way it's supposed to be, it's how it's been for thousands of years. But the world has we've created in 21st century has made it unpractical and a little unwise for most women to be completely dependent on their husband. So I agree with those who say that you should have a job for a little bit, before completely going into the housewife lifestyle.
I'll sort you a baby out if you like... but expect no fatherly involvement or child support :biggrin:
Do what ever you fancy... it's your life... many feminist are concerned about the undervalue of women choosing childcare :smile:
You white, middle class girls live in a dream world.

Starting any business requires dedication, effort and long hard hours and most of the time it's not a case of just choosing your own hours you need to work at whatever buisness to meet the needs of the consumer.

You people seem to think starting a buisness is an easy way out well it's bloody not and it's not guaranteed to succeed and with the lazy half arsed attitude towards it that the OP has I can almost guarantee she would fail. Yes some buisness owners live an easy life but that's only after they have put in years of hard work. The OP doesn't even have a clue about what she wants to do for a buisness yet she seems to think it will be no problem. That's what the middle class white sheltered life does to some people people who have no concept of real life and only know about Daddy's magic credit card.

Life isn't easy you have to stick in and work at what you do to be a success. Sure you might be able to use your looks to marry a rich dude and then sit about lazily doing nothing all day other than babysitting the kids, which is basically just letting him use your body for sex and kids in return for money and a house. If that's your wish then so be it good luck who am I or anyone else to tell you not to but don't for a second pretend that it's not lazy.
Original post by Redfrost
I don't feel programmed to want babies and I'm pushing 30, I feel more programmed to exercising and run all the time, must be hunter gatherer instincts ive no idea.


Well everyone is different, I was speaking generally.
That's pretty awful. You don't even have the capability of being independent. What happens when your husband leaves you?
Hahahahaha.


You don't want to have a career but you want to be a small business owner.

I don't think you realise the stress and responsibility of being a small business owner. Being self employed is more stressful than working under someone else. And it's still part of the rat race. You seem a bit naive.
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