[Princess_Peach]

Hi gang,

I frequent Durham wetherspoons and have recently befriended one of the bar staff. It started off friendly, he would sit and chat to me whilst I worked on some law cases. Then it turned flirty. So far no probs. But tonight he asked if I wanted to go for a drink with him and asked for my number. Normally I'm strait forward in these types of situations but this guy is very friendly and kind. So when he asked, I said 'excuse me I have to take this call. I think it may be an emergency' and I legged it. (immature I know).

So what is the kindest way to let someone down? Id quite like to maintain my friendship with this guy.

[Rock Fan]

No easy way of doing it, best to be honest.

[Overmars]

"I'm gay"? works for me

[andy_cole2]

you could go along with it just make it amazingly clear that you only want to be friends.

[Princess_Peach]

Originally Posted by Carl1982

No easy way of doing it, best to be honest.

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, what is the least hurtful form of rejection one can dish out?

[Overmars]

Originally Posted by Princess_Peach

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, what is the least hurtful form of rejection one can dish out?

there are different forms of rejection?

[Rock Fan]

Originally Posted by Princess_Peach

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, what is the least hurtful form of rejection one can dish out?

Well just be polite but tell him you only want to be friends.

[andy_cole2]

yeah you could lie, as in i have a bf i'm not after a bf at the moment there's someone i like or maybe one of them is the truth, you could do the rather just be friends or you could meet him platonically...is that the right word?

[Rock Fan]

I suppose a protective fib sometimes works.

[mr_person]

"I'd love to but i'm meeting my bf tonight. Maybe some other time."

[SuperDaz]

You could tell him you have a boyfriend? Or that you want to concentrate on university for a few months!

Or failing that, you could say you're moving to Yemen and just avoid Wetherspoons in future

[Princess_Peach]

But I really love Durham 'Spoons ^_^

Originally Posted by mr_person

"I'd love to but i'm meeting my bf tonight. Maybe some other time."

Nice one!

[Overmars]

Originally Posted by Deoh

Or failing that, you could say you're moving to Yemen

Yeah, worked with Chandler, didn't it?

[andy_cole2]

although the 'emergency' must have worked a treat he probs guessed from that i would expect....

[ledge]

Originally Posted by Princess_Peach

Hi gang,

I frequent Durham wetherspoons and have recently befriended one of the bar staff. It started off friendly, he would sit and chat to me whilst I worked on some law cases. Then it turned flirty. So far no probs. But tonight he asked if I wanted to go for a drink with him and asked for my number. Normally I'm strait forward in these types of situations but this guy is very friendly and kind. So when he asked, I said 'excuse me I have to take this call. I think it may be an emergency' and I legged it. (immature I know).

So what is the kindest way to let someone down? Id quite like to maintain my friendship with this guy.

If you want to put someone off, just talk to them?

[person 34]

Originally Posted by mr_person

"I'd love to but i'm meeting my bf tonight. Maybe some other time."

Oh God, I used that once (I did actually have a bf) but it wasn't very good, I literally saw his face drop and it got all awkward, and he didn't really talk to me much afterwards. To be honest, he was probably a sad ass, but i still felt bad.

[mr_person]

Originally Posted by person 34

Oh God, I used that once (I did actually have a bf) but it wasn't very good, I literally saw his face drop and it got all awkward, and he didn't really talk to me much afterwards. To be honest, he was probably a sad ass, but i still felt bad.

I don't think many people really take pleasure from rejecting people.

[supernova2]

I really like you but only as a friend (i don't find you attractive)

[Invocation]

Tell him that your girlfriend wouldn't like that.

[Clubber Lang]

You brought the problem on yourself - deal with it!