Should I Leave Uni?

You haven't mentioned anything about your course...

Do you enjoy your course?

People aside, how are you finding the course? If you can get a decent degree in it, then you almost certainly should stick it out. Career prospects outweigh another 6 months or so of poor flat-mate relations, surely?

Returning home now may solve the problem initially, but after a while you'll have to get a job/move away regardless, and with that comes a completely new environment. (One that you may well not like either.) So you'd perhaps be back to square one, with no degree in hand.

It may be hard, but see it through. You'll almost certainly be glad you did.

Why would you let your dislike for your roommates influence your career prospects? This is a decision about your future, not whether or not you like uni.

i dont 'dislike' them

its just that they live a different life to me.

such as their course is much more intense than mine, so theyll go to bed at 10:30 at the latest... and only go out once a week (and use finances as an excuse for not going out more) whereas thats far to early for me to go to bed and i know full well most of them are loaded and can afford a night out.

so i just dont feel i fit in really (to much to explain every minute detail)

but you are right in that its a decision about my future...and thats what scares me, i dont want to make the right choice.

Firstly you would not be throwing away a years effort. You have done that and passed it, no-one can take it away from you. If you were to leave now you would be credited with it and graduate with an HNC.

Secondly, you are thinking about quitting uni because of your flatmates? Don't be silly man! Seriously. There are better ways to do work around things. You can talk to them for starters. If that does not work you can move back into halls. You can advertise for someone to share with or look for a similar ad.

Please, do not give up uni because of flatmates. If you do deside to give up uni then you have not wasted that last year, you have done it, passed it and will be credited for it.

I still don't see your point. You have terrible roommates. That's life. You can't just stop living your life just because of this. Let them look down on you. It's hardly going to matter in the long run. You'll probably never see them after you graduate. What will matter in the long run is whether or not you have a uni degree.

i just dont feel i "fit in" with the majority of the campus though

loads of people go about in "university of durham" hooded tops etc, and just generally treat it as the most amazing, wonderful experience theyve ever had in life...and go on about this constantly.

whereas i honestly feel that i could say goodbye to the freinds ive made, and forget them in a few weeks/months, as i dont honestly feel ive made a 'connection' with the uni.

i dont want to go about dressed head to toe in Durham uni stuff, be in numorous societies and sports teams...whilst being hated by the locals (due to be studenty) id rather be at home with my freinds.

Yeah, I know how you feel. OK, I have just started 6 weels ago so it is different for me, but what you described is exactly what I feel like. I also really need to start putting in some hours or I will fail my course. But, I want a degree, I am determined to get a degree.

4 years of misery is nothing, trust me on this. I had a job in a factory for 8 years, absolutely miserable - nearly in tears every morning when startung at 4.30. Do I want to be stuck in a job like that again? No chance - I'll happily be miserable now to make sure!

you are making some good points, and i do thank you for the advice.

its just hard to have a "oh well" attitude all the time

i can put up with things most of the week, its just certain days and hours that really get to me.

its hard to be somewhere you dont want to be 24/7, despite all the undoubted career prospects.

its just hard for me to sit here and consider sitting here and not enoying myself for another 18months

Let's put it like this, either you suffer for the next 18 months (a large chunk of which you will probably spend at home anyway) or you suffer for the next 5-10 years doing some menial job. Going home should not be a choice. You're stuck in uni. Make the best of it.

Let's put it like this, either you suffer for the next 18 months (a large chunk of which you will probably spend at home anyway) or you suffer for the next 5-10 years doing some menial job. Going home should not be a choice. You're stuck in uni. Make the best of it.