Attracting Girls? Why is it so difficult?!

That's some dead good advice. Agree with it completely... U seem like u have girls figured out...wish all guys did

That is some impressive advice! Thank you!

Nota Bena: I would say I fairly unique as a person, how do you take advantage of that?!

! I wish I did, my friend, I wish. One can only follow the path ahead and learn through living. I've been the underdog and the alpha and then the underdog again at different times in my life and I have seen things from different perspectives so I've learned through my mistakes, so to speak. I think everyone knows the truth of how to live well and prosper in every walk of life, it's just implementing that knowledge which is the key. A new idea will only flourish if it has been implemented well, be it at a tech startup or in the pursuit of a relationship. I appreciate your complement.



No one can tell you how to take advantage of your uniqueness because it's so unique! I would say that your common mannerisms and quirks are a good place. I forgot to mention too that you've got to be a well-rounded person. That means that you've got to have a variety of interests and an interest in other people's interests to the extent where you can at least relate to them and make conversation. You don't want to be shouty, attention-seeking know-it-all, but you also don't want to be the guy playing Flappy Bird on his phone in the corner. Ultimately, every thing you change for the better in your life creates a self-perpetuating cycle. Just like when bad becomes worse, good becomes great and beyond. So get yourself in gear, give yourself time and be patient. You've got a lot going for you, just like every man, woman and child around you. Make the most of it!

Best of luck!

Any tips for greater success?

I don't think I can make that determination as I would be bias! One has to be objective! Being subjective doesn't really help the situation!

You're joking right?....Being able to critique yourself is without a doubt the best thing you have to improve attracting girls....

What do you expect to happen? One little trick and it will all fall into place?

Here is what it takes....Speaking to 1000+ woman in life and pointing the finger at yourself after every time you talk to one of them and seeing what you need to change about yourself as a person, what you did that was good and what you need to improve upon. You need to view the whole thing subjectively.

If I was to talk to you about everything Iv'e learnt over the last year we would be there every evening 3/4 hours a hit for the next 6 months.

But then there is imparting it all upon yourself and making it part of you as a being. Talking about it and understanding ideals is great but it become part of you is what you need.

But one thing you have to realise is that its not woman that ultimately you will be working on improving results with. Its people in general regardless of gender.

because you're not attractive

Lol really? It's a genuine question

Who said I was ugly or desperate? It's a justified question you are too inept to understand that?

Haha yeh, even though it's a genuine question, it's like where are you suppose to be looking? Clubs, pubs, on the tube haha

Well what I wld say is that girls are taught to never express much interest because that is considered desperate and that guys have to chase a girl and show interest. This sucks because the guy then never know if a girl likes him because she is afraid to show interest and seem desperate and easy. And sometimes if they like a guy they try to mask all of that kind of emotion as they are worried they are being obvious which makes it even harder for the guy.

In my experience, girls like the following:

NB: Before anyone judges me, I am a total hypocrite as I don't follow all of the below points, but I'm trying to and will hopefully succeed one day!

1) Compatible personality - You've got to show that you can get along with her. If you can make her laugh, you're doing great. You've got to feel comfortable around her and vice versa. Moreover, there's got to be some energy between the both of you. If she's staring blankly at you or doesn't seem to be interested in you, then either she isn't, or you haven't projected yourself well enough.

2) Confidence - So cliché to say but it's absolutely true. Girls don't like the guys who sit in the corner and twiddle their thumbs. They like a robust grounding and can-do attitude.

3) Be Yourself - Again, very cliché to say, and again it's entirely true. I'm no expert, but every girl I've ever been with said that she liked me for my uniqueness. So show them what you've got. (No, no that thing, I mean you as a person)

4) Keep in good shape. I wouldn't say that looks matter the most. See, you're dealt with a hand and that's it. It's in your genetics or whatever you want to say to justify your appearance. The critical point is, there's no such thing as 'ugly'. It's a subjective term. You've got to take care of your body the best you can, keep it lean and eat well and you will look and feel more vibrant, and subsequently attract more women. One girl's reject is another girl's dream, so don't ever write yourself off.

5) Be nice - (Did I mention cliché, anyone?) Girls like nice guys from my experience. Be kind, don't favourite anyone especially, just do good deeds when and where you can and you'll be surprised how much it carries over in your relationships with your friends, family and girls to come. You'll feel better and this will show when the time comes.

6) Eat rejection - If you ask a girl out (because you like her, quantity of asks <<<< quality of asks) and she isn't interested, then that's her loss, as far as you're concerned. Take it like a man and don't go crying home. Get out there, meet some nice girls. You may already know some. If there's one special to you, get yourself ready with the aforementioned points and go and ask her if you want to get a drink.

The people that find it difficult to get girls are the ones who don't try. And I don't mean that you or me or anyone else should just go out there and 'cold call'. I'm talking about meaningful pursuits. Prepare yourself like you would for an exam or an interview even if it sounds corny and you'll see what happens.

Anyway, best of luck! Have a good one.

Ah that's def not always the case. Ever had girls boob you in a bar? Ignite a convo?

I say! I found myself giving you a little ripple of applause when I read that! You're an extremely wise chap when it comes to the female kind! I appreciate you advice and hope to enforce it! A question if I may. How was it being an alpha male? As some who has sort of hovered just below that category, I've always wondered how it was.

Haha well I suppose we cant generalise and no I've never had girls boob me but I guess that wld be the perfect way to express interest might do it the next time I see a cute guy on the street if u think its effective

Well it's usually in bars. Be careful not to knock him unconscious.


With big boobs comes great responsibility

Haha of course I understand this heavy responsibility that has been placed upon me haha yeah it wldnt work walking down the street ...i wld have to jump or leap... I wld defo ko him then oh well it was a good idea when I first thought of it