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Most bizarre problem

Right I know this is going to sound really wierd, and probably like I'm fishing for compliments etc. But basically pretty much everytime I leave the house I get chatted up. Today I was in really dirty cords coz they were the first things I could find, baggy wolly jumper done right up to under my chin, flat shoes, had 2 big bags, literally no makeup on, and dirty hair. And yet I still got guys beeping at me from their car, and chatted up. So why the problem?? I'm wondering the same thing :s-smilie:

every time it happens I feel so worthless and depressed, its wierd, and I have no idea why I feel like this. Whenever guys chat me up I am polite to them, coz I think it's a bit **** that our society dictates then men should do the approaching, so I accept they have a hard enough job as it is, so I am always nice, but just tell them I have a bf, but afterwards I just feel awful, like a really **** human being...does anyone have any idea why?!
Also it's making it v hard to socialise, I tend to get on better with guys than girls, but its just seems that any male I click with invariable wants more.
I don't really now why I'm posting, mainly for insight into why things that should be taken as a compliment seem to upset me so much. I know I should be flattered!

Reply 1

mr_person

It doesn't sound like a very nasty problem to be honest :tongue:

Are you sure they are always chatting you up, not just 'chatting'?

Reply 2

Evil-Tuna

Anonymous

they call those jumpers roll necks or turtle necks. otherwise 1. it isnt a jumper. 2. you dont have a neck.

how do 2 bags make you unattractive?

im just being pedantic. sorry.

maybe you should stop being nice to them if theyre only after one thing. especially if they are american. cos we all know what goes on in their minds. french on the other hand, yes, always.

i hope this helps. dont feel indebted to me, im just doing this out of the kindess of my heart.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

I'm pretty sure it's chatting up...y'know you can just tell by the way people are? I mean often they will actually ask if I'm single, and if they could get my number kinda thing.
I know it doesn't sound very nasty at all!! A few years ago I would have loved it, that's why I'm so confused as to why I hate it now!?
Ok it wasn't a jumper it was a cardigan with a wide collar that I zipped right up to my chin :P, and the 2 bags make me unattractive coz I look like a pack horse and end up waddling coz they r heavy n I am little. Maybe I should stop being nice, but I can't stand girls who are bitchy to guys who chat them up, it's not the guys fault the girl isn't interested, and it's not his fault that it always falls to him to make the first move

Reply 4

prash_s90

the guys could just have been really horney or something (no offence)...or maybe their genuine ..if you dont like the guy just keep saying you have a bf...that has to be the best excuse eveer !! :suith:

Reply 5

Who's_buying?

If your feeling guilty for rejecting them, don't worry, because i doubt they'd care too much

I find it difficult to believe that every single guy you meet would be like that though, unless you only go to nightclubs and the like.

Reply 6

Unregistered

id enjoy the attention! no one ever pays any to me.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

Who's_buying?

Nah it's not guilt, I know thy're probably not at all bothered, it's the actual fact that they do it at all that gets to me. And course it's not every single guy, but it is a higher percentage than I would ever have imagined, eg, went out with some people for a society thing, and only one of the lads there didn't try anything on. Also I'm not a huge nightclub goer in the first place, it really is guys just walking up to me in the street, I didn't think anyone did that!!

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

OP I sort of get where you coming from. I don't really consider myself attractive but on some days when I'll do my hair in a certain way or put on a bit of extra make-up I'll get more attention. Getting attention from men can be flattering but it can get to the point where it starts to make you feel uncomfortable because you're the centre of attention.

You'll get stares from men and then others will look at you because some are staring- if that makes sense- so you sort of feel like a freak show and it makes you feel awkward.

If you still attract a lot of attention when you're dressed in a baggy wooly jumper and no make-up on then my God, you must be extremely attractive. :p:

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

Actually that sounds about right, it may well be that I don't like being the centre of attention, because I often find myself just wishing that I was plain and sort of invisible (obviously I know that if I was plain and invisible I would hate it and want to be noticed :rolleyes:

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Reply 10

MaryKay

Anonymous

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So true! I generally find I get a load of attention from guys when I haven't bothered to do my hair or put any make-up on, and yet sometimes when you really make the effort, nothing! Dunno maybe guys prefer the natural look? :confused:

Reply 11

username47781

Oh i remember i was walking along with one of my mates once in town and these girls pulled up in a motor and asked us how much do you want us pay you for some fun and my mate said "I don't charge" and the girls thought it was me who said it, course i refused to take up their offer :biggrin:

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

. I have just got back from a weekend at a naval base whereI was doing cadet stuff. For the entire weekend I was a-sexual as it is possible to be. Really made me feel better about myself, god bless the navy for stripping away any femininity any of its members have!