LGBT help, lonliness girl

The problem is, in our society which is defined by the standard heterosexual relationship, is the stigma attached to asking people out. It's okay for a man to ask a girl out, but if another girl was to ask another girl out...it doesn't seem to be...which is a sad indictment of our society.


But alas, you have to ask people out, and dust yourself down and you know...just be persistent...
Are you at university? Maybe they're some societies or something, and you can get to know some people.

It will take some time, but you have to trust that you will find someone soon enough.

true, i wish it were different too

i cannot think of anything more awkward than asking out a straight girl lol

hey I have finally come out to myself
I am bisexual but I lean much more towards girls (I am a girl)

true, i wish it were different too

i cannot think of anything more awkward than asking out a straight girl lol

It's no more awkward than any other dating scenario tbh - I'm a straight guy and I've unwittingly asked out LGBT girls who weren't interested before!

The trick is to try and befriend someone and get to know them fairly well before you ask them out. If they say they're not interested (because of their sexuality), no harm done - just be respectful, thank them for their honesty and leave with your head held high. Of all of the girls I've hit on, none of them reacted badly because I wasn't a dick about it - evidently they were just really nice and I'd misread this as a sign that they might've been attracted to me!

My LGBT friends rave about the Effing Dykes blog (which I can't link here due to some of the language!). It's a fairly amusing read regardless of your sexuality due to its style. But yeah, just put yourself out there and see what happens. I'm told that the hardest part of coming out is learning to accept yourself, so if you feel sufficiently comfortable to acknowledge you're not straight then you've already hit a major milestone.

Best of luck with it.

Hey, as someone already said coming out to yourself is the hardest part so well done . I know they're not exactly cool but my mates (gay girls) all use dating websites an apps, I find it by far the easiest way because there's no way I'm about to ask a girl out if I didn't have some serious gay signs first! So at least you know everyone on there is in the same boat and although they get a bad rep I've only had good experiences.

Also just being 'out' to as many people as poss helps, so then anyone interested can either approach you or make any feelings for you obvious. Being fem it's damn near impossible to have a girl just hit on me because she just wouldn't really know I was that way inclined, even in a gay club I'm always looked upon as a straight girl, so yeah putting yourself out there as the gay one always helps me out anyways!

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hey I have finally come out to myself
I am bisexual but I lean much more towards girls (I am a girl)
It is so hard to meet girls like that, and I dont want a one night stand I want a relationship

i feel like lonely and it is so pathetic

Ooh i should join

But that would mean coming out.... Hmm

Hey, thank you for the reply! I guess you're right about the whole being out thing. I know it would be better but I am just not comfortable being out yet.. Idk why

Also I am on my year abroad, so in a new country. I guess I could see if there are decent dating apps here

Was it hard to come out?

hey I have finally come out to myself
I am bisexual but I lean much more towards girls (I am a girl)
It is so hard to meet girls like that, and I dont want a one night stand I want a relationship

i feel like lonely and it is so pathetic

it's difficult to get romantic love if you first don't have friendship love.