Do Muslim girls care about sex before marriage?

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I do object to sex before marriage, primarily because Islam prohibits it, but also owing to my own moral compass. I'd feel unchaste and debauched had I engaged in some sort of intimacy with some guy that I wouldn't end up marrying.


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Curious... was reading another topic that made me think this, let me know your thoughts.

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That's true, you want to ideally be with the person you love, not someone your unsure about or haven't known for long. Morals, marriage and Islam all basically encourage that.

Well I'll try to explain but it probably won't even make any sense haha cause whenever I start rambling I lose focus and then end up confused. But yeah religion plays a big part it and I would be having sex before marriage and stuff but for me morals play a big part in it to. I was brought up with morals and ever since I was young and by that I mean 9/10/11 people around he would be 'dating' and I mean Muslim children. And I never saw the point in dating if it wasn't going to last idk I guess I'm old fashioned in that sense. And then as I got into secondary school and stuff even more people were dating and losing their virginity and for me it never made sense. I didn't ever see the point and morally I though it was off too. For me, I always thought that if you dated someone it would be because you genuinely saw yourself with them, and by that I mean till marriage or whatever. And it was the same for sex. Like I never understood casual sex or one night stands or stuff like that. I don't even think this makes sense. But anyways for me, I think sex is a big thing and my sleeping around you just, I don't know how to explain. So if someone had sex before they were married then it would either mean he was into casual sex, which would just completely clash with my mind set so it wouldn't work, or it would mean that he was in a proper commited relationship, which again I don't know how to explain but that would effect me. But yeah... I know I'm like old fashioned in the way I think and I'm most likely not going to find a guy who thinks like that and yeah.

It's not easy on guys either - thought one wife was annoying? Imagine FOUR. Hijab? Niqab? More cloth, more costs. Women keep what they own and spend what their husband gets, how's that fair? Only men can rule the state; less responsibilities much. We are forced to grow beards without a choice. We are the real victims here

For me, sex is the most sacred of physical attractions. Penetration is more than just a penetration. It is during this time of intimacy that you would have to break all emotional barriers, expose insecurities and give or receive care to/ from your partner to mend those vulnerabilities. I can only share this with a person who will offer me the utmost comfort as well as trust and marriage offers the platform for a couple to do just that. Knowing that you are marrying “the right one” is the most difficult bit though, but I think if you are given guidance by God and support by your loved ones, it will be eased.

So, to answer your question, I do care (but I am not representing the entire Muslim girls). I would not consider myself pious because of my lack of conformity towards solah but this is one of the most important self- principles that I hold dearly in life.

Yeeee course

I'm a good girl really

Yh deffo! I definitely don't want a guy who has slept around with other girls and has done stuff because i think that the whole point of waiting till marriage is that so when its done its done with someone who loves you,respects you and will be there in the morning and be your husband. Being there when you need him and being present when you are pregnant, supporting you and the baby, raising it and loving it. I feel that a guy whose slept around loses this special feeling to it. A feeling where sex is actually a intimate thing, that no one else has. So I do care whether my future husband is a virgin or not. Also if he has slept around it shows that he has no fear of god and so what stops him from doing other things that god hasn't allowed. I realise there are so much pressures these days for sex and other stuff but many people here on tsr have said how much they have regretted having it and that they should have waited etc so I really do believe in waiting.

Well I no longer consider myself a Muslim (due to certain experiences that made me come to the conclusion God doesn't really exist) but I still believe in saving myself for marriage. One reason is, I know myself and I would most likely feel guilty if I had sex before marriage. Also I guess some muslim beliefs have still remained engraved in my mind haha

That's actually an interesting outlook, thanks for sharing. Would you mind if I ask what experiences your referring to?


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As a muslim girl, I wouldn't have sex before marriage. It's an important principle, its the same with kissing etc so wouldn't put myself in a situation like that where it could happen.

It seems a lot more strict on female Muslims as I know plenty of make Muslims that aren't virgins but it's a taboo if a female Muslim isn't.
Just because you have sex before marriage doesn't make you immoral that's stupid af.


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