I worded it wrong, was mean't to say gay is the 'accepted' norm these days. What and how makes a person gay or bi? That is not for me to insult back but has anyone got any experience when they realised they wern't straight? I need to know to understand what he is going through.
And why shouldn't it be the "accepted norm"? There are many other species with gay tendencies so why do you think it's not natural?
i cant imagine wot it does feel like 2 find dat out, but if it woz me i wouldnt say anything, hes probably embraassed 2 tell ya dude. If he wanted ya 2 kno he wud have told ya. He prob aint ready, just giv him time, how ya kno hes gay mayb hes bi, maybe he will have a wife and kids 1 day
Thank you for being so kind Everyone else on here is being nasty when all I am doing is stating other views who we associate with.
It's not a piss take, I have just quoted what the people around us say hence why he can't tell anyone. I admit I wouldn't be happy but I would support him. He doesn't know my 'bad attitude'.
Well, all the gays we know are nasty pieces of work and do you think I want my nice brother to go out with a cheat or a verbal abuser? If he did want to date a gay I hope he chooses a decent one, god knows where they are.
This may come as a bit of a shock to you, but they are virtually everywhere. The people you know as "the gays" are the people you know are gay because they act a certain way. The gays you do not notice are the ones who act just like any other straight person. Heck, if you met me on the street you would most likely have no idea I wasn't straight. Not all gays bounce arround in leather trousers and pink-coloured hair you know... Think about it for a second. If you didn't knwo about your brother, how could you possibly know when it comes to complete strangers?
This is thing with TSR, you people are not respecting my views. I am entitled to my opinion whether you like it or not. All I want to know is do I just pretend I never saw the gay porn or ask him?
My brother is 18 and I found gay stuff on his computer a few years ago but dismissed it as experimentation. But recently have found he is downloading these videos and still visits these websites. I was not snooping as I wanted to download something and use an internet explorer that is not used much as its faster.
I felt sick at my findings, probably cos he is a nice person and we all want him to get married and have a family. His 'chat' profiles say he is straight, he hasn't had a girlfriend and my mom would be upset if she knew and the rest of the family are old fashioned and would be against it. As a child he spent a lot of time with women as my dad was always at work so never spent time with him. He hasn't said anything to me as he is quite secretive. I just don't know what to do.
Oh no, end of the world. All gay people are horrible people, you're exactly right to feel sick.
This is how other people think, not just me.
Oh, so that makes your ideas ok. It makes the nazis ok because there were lots of them. Yes, glad that's all cleared up.
Well, all the gays we know are nasty pieces of work and do you think I want my nice brother to go out with a cheat or a verbal abuser? If he did want to date a gay I hope he chooses a decent one, god knows where they are.
You appear to have no sense of reasoning. Just because you meet a few gay man who you don't get on with, you extrapolate from that and make an assumption about every single one? It's a sexual preference, not a personality.
This is thing with TSR, you people are not respecting my views. I am entitled to my opinion whether you like it or not. All I want to know is do I just pretend I never saw the gay porn or ask him?
Pretend you didn't see it then He might not even be gay....
edit: fyi, people tend not to respect homophobic views. I certainly don't.
This is thing with TSR, you people are not respecting my views. I am entitled to my opinion whether you like it or not. All I want to know is do I just pretend I never saw the gay porn or ask him?
We're not respecting your views because they are, as Laura Lou said, rather homophobic...
Just let him be. If he's gay or bi, he'll tell you in his own time
Thank you for being so kind Everyone else on here is being nasty when all I am doing is stating other views who we associate with.
Now guess how gay people feel when surrounded by people who consider, not just their views, but their very basic feelings, love and crushes to be abnormal, innatural or wrong... Seriously, can't you see why it bothers us? You are offended simply because we dislike your views of things, yet you are branding us as immoral because of feelings we haven't chosen, and despite that we have done nothing to hurt you. How can you claim we are being nasty when all we are doing is trying to explain to you that your insensitiev comments are likely to hurt and offend a lot of people? Really. Being religious I assume you are familiar with a little saying which starts with "Do towards others..."
This may come as a bit of a shock to you, but they are virtually everywhere. The people you know as "the gays" are the people you know are gay because they act a certain way. The gays you do not notice are the ones who act just like any other straight person. Heck, if you met me on the street you would most likely have no idea I wasn't straight. Not all gays bounce arround in leather trousers and pink-coloured hair you know... Think about it for a second. If you didn't knwo about your brother, how could you possibly know when it comes to complete strangers?
Hahahahaa....you don't want to make him afraid to go out of the house do you? It reminds me of the Bob Dylan song Talking John Birch Paranoid Blues...that's what you'll turn him into, except gays not "reds"...
This is thing with TSR, you people are not respecting my views.
By posting on the internet you have invited people with different views to come and judge yours. Surely you can't expect people to just come on and confirm your own views? Especially not the nonsense you espouse about gay people. You sound like you're from the '50s for Christ's sake. Is this some religious thing?
"Religion is the one area of our discourses in which people are systematically protected from the demand to give good evidence and valid arguments in defense of their strongly held beliefs." - Sam Harris
This is thing with TSR, you people are not respecting my views. I am entitled to my opinion whether you like it or not. All I want to know is do I just pretend I never saw the gay porn or ask him?
You are entitled to your opinion, but we don't have to respect it, agree with it, or think that it is even remotely sane. After all, we have a right to have opinions as well...
Yeah, you're talking a load of rubbish, I hope you don't decide to tell your parents or confront your brother because it really is absolutely none of your business.
"Religion is the one area of our discourses in which people are systematically protected from the demand to give good evidence and valid arguments in defense of their strongly held beliefs." - Sam Harris
Aaaaaagh so many people I want to rep in this thread but I already repped Jonatan.