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Things are really difficult with my housemate

We lived together last year, and again this year. As we were in halls last year, with twice as many people, it was a lot more difficult to know who was making what mess basically. She doesn't think she's dirty, and I know for a fact she is. We've brought this issue up, arranged a cleaning rota and thats all... Well. Kind of. She has said she doesn't want to do anyone elses washing up, she doesnt want to cook meals for each other.. She seems to have seperated herself from me and my other housemate.

Now, the other issue, and this is whats really getting to me is the fact that she doesn't socialise. She hasn't been out in about 3 weeks now. She just sits infront of the TV or on the computer. She hasn't made any friends at all on her course, so I try to bring her out with me but my friends think she can be a little odd. We were gonna go out tonight, but she decided she didn't want to when I told her my friends weren't gonna be there. She said she feels like a spare part because I'm single, she's not, so when I get chatting to guys.. It's really offended methough. She keeps making comments about how I don't have a boyfriend, about how much of a "slag" ive been (she's not used that word quite yet).

What do I do, when talking doesn't work? I have 8 months left in this house with her, and I think I might actually hate her in that time.

Reply 1

username47781

Think you've done all you can, you've offered her to come out with you etc maybe she has some bigger issues in her life that is making her act this way.

Reply 2

DebraN9

Why does the fact she doesn't socialise get to you so much? It's her choice!

Reply 3

Tarts_n_Vicars

You don't need to have an out and out fight with her about things...you just need to withdraw a little. You've realised that whatever happens you still have to live with her, so don't invite her out so much and learn to "tolerate" her mess if you've already spoken to her and she's not fixing it.

Tough I know but you either let it go or get annoyed about it all the time and 8 months is a LONG time to have to share breathing space with someone you can't stand.

Reply 4

LadyEnglish

Leave her to it. Yes its frustrating to have someone in the house who does nothing and doesn't compliment your personality, but its her loss, atleast you're not on you're own, you have the other housemate. Perhaps lonliness and exclusion will get to her and she might make an effort, but on some levels i agree with debra, some people are just quiet and shy away from large, interactive social situations. Leave her be i say :smile: