How does a guy make friends in his late 20s

I don't really have a current circle of friends at the moment, plus I'm single too. The people I work with aren't my age either and into completely different things. I even wonder if there are people my age where I'm forced to live at the moment. I don't live in a city at the moment, which sucks, but I hopefully might be able to get out this year.

The usual advice given is join a club and go out to a bar and meet new people, but all these attempts have been failures. The people who go to bars have their friendship circles locked down, they often are party people (I'm more of a chill out guy) and people are usually drunk. clubs are really cliquey too. I'm always forever labelled as the outsider when it comes to clubs. It doesn't help how I'm shy and have been alone for so long. I think sometimes I often say the wrong things or something.

How do you make friends?? Is there any other way? Sometimes I feel as though I'm meant to be forever alone. Sort of like Dexter. I might as well do those monologues in my head

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Reply 1

DanielleT192

I feel your pain. I work with only 5/6 colleagues and they're all in their 40s or late 50s apart from one, who I couldn't speak to properly and my friends are distant as their lives are changing with kids etc.

Best thing in my opinion, is have even one person, sibling or one close friend, who you can meet up with more often and maybe expand your circle that way. It can take one person to change your social life.

Otherwise, go for the cliche group meetings. I've joined an app called 'meetup' and it refines you from where you live and what your interests are. I've met a couple of people through a guitar group and it was pretty cool!

Reply 2

lyrical_lie

I was in the same boat when I moved to London however I actually made friends off Tsr. Sounds crazy but remember most of us are people too so feel free to message me for a chat :h:

Reply 3

Truflais

Original post by lyrical_lie

I was in the same boat when I moved to London however I actually made friends off Tsr. Sounds crazy but remember most of us are people too so feel free to message me for a chat :h:

This

I've made some great friends through TSR.

Reply 4

MissDavies

meetup.com

I've met some decent people that way, mainly people to go to the cinema with since none of my other friends want to see the same movies as me.

Reply 5

samba

Original post by MissDavies

meetup.com

I've met some decent people that way, mainly people to go to the cinema with since none of my other friends want to see the same movies as me.

The movies isn't really high level socialising is it :p:

You sit there in silence watching a movie that you could have just downloaded and watched with your pet on your lap!

Reply 6

MissDavies

Original post by samba

The movies isn't really high level socialising is it :p:

You sit there in silence watching a movie that you could have just downloaded and watched with your pet on your lap!

No but we usually go for a drink after/meal before or something like that. And movies aren't the only thing on offer, it's just the main reason I joined. I've also been to a couple of book club meetings, comedy nights and just drinks.