How do you deal with loneliness?
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Original post by Hayley Williams
You sound like me, thought I was the only one. I love my own company though, kind of weird. I don't get lonely. I must be really entertaining 
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Same here, but on occasions when I do feel lonely I listen to music or watch TV. Or just try and prove to myself how hilarious I can be to cheer myself up
Original post by RFowler
I suppose the answer to anorexia is to "just eat something" then? Depressed people should "just cheer up"?
no
not having anorexia or depression would probably help though
Just force yourself to do more things. I love forcing myself to do something I'm terrified of like recently I went skydiving and I have a huge fear of heights. It made me feel invincible! Like I could do conquer anything!
Original post by RFowler
I suppose the answer to anorexia is to "just eat something" then? Depressed people should "just cheer up"?
in fairness (taking myself as an example) the solution to obsessive rumination is actually 'just stop thinking about it'. My reaction will always be to question WHY stop thinking? WHY? and so the cycle continues
Aww cute.
Anyway just call some people and ask if they want to come yours and do something. Like play Xbox, watch some tv, have a few beers and go out to the club. It's actually not hard.
Yeah I see that, main thing is to find a way to clear your head.
Anyway just call some people and ask if they want to come yours and do something. Like play Xbox, watch some tv, have a few beers and go out to the club. It's actually not hard.
Original post by Smash Bandicoot
in fairness (taking myself as an example) the solution to obsessive rumination is actually 'just stop thinking about it'. My reaction will always be to question WHY stop thinking? WHY? and so the cycle continues
Yeah I see that, main thing is to find a way to clear your head.
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Original post by jam277
Aww cute.
Anyway just call some people and ask if they want to come yours and do something. Like play Xbox, watch some tv, have a few beers and go out to the club. It's actually not hard.
Yeah I see that, main thing is to find a way to clear your head.
Anyway just call some people and ask if they want to come yours and do something. Like play Xbox, watch some tv, have a few beers and go out to the club. It's actually not hard.
Yeah I see that, main thing is to find a way to clear your head.
Yeah but that doesn't solve the uncomfortable feeling of being alone, just distracts you from it with people-which will eventually make you needy and act dependent, clingy etc. ironically pushing people away.
Learning to be chill on your own helps you grow as a person, so you don't need people around, but you want their company, and you pick people right for your anther than just whoever will give you the time of day when you're desperate
and I know re: me
Original post by Justme:-)
Same here, but on occasions when I do feel lonely I listen to music or watch TV. Or just try and prove to myself how hilarious I can be to cheer myself up
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Just keep speaking to different people online and join student forums also spend time with your family because that can also help loneliness
also spend time with your family because that can also help loneliness
I think a lot of people get confused between loneliness & unhappiness. The term loneliness is used so broadly, some people in relationships consider themselves to be lonely, while some people not in relationships don't. Some people with friends feel lonely, and some do without.. And so on.
Unless you're actually alone and have no one around you then it's probably the reason of feeling as you do. If not then perhaps ask yourself if you feel like this ALL the time?
If you don't, then what are you doing when you aren't feeling this way? Doing a sport? Shopping? Gaming? Gyming? Reading? Writing?
Then ask yourself what you're doing when you feel this? Nothing? Trying too hard to socialise? Looking at how happy people come across on Facebook? watching romcoms?
Just try to analyse how you go about your life, and perhaps fill the times you feel unhappy with the things you actually enjoy doing.. Might help
Unless you're actually alone and have no one around you then it's probably the reason of feeling as you do. If not then perhaps ask yourself if you feel like this ALL the time?
If you don't, then what are you doing when you aren't feeling this way? Doing a sport? Shopping? Gaming? Gyming? Reading? Writing?
Then ask yourself what you're doing when you feel this? Nothing? Trying too hard to socialise? Looking at how happy people come across on Facebook? watching romcoms?
Just try to analyse how you go about your life, and perhaps fill the times you feel unhappy with the things you actually enjoy doing.. Might help
Original post by Groot
I thought I told you to get your **** together.
Anyway, find things you like doing in life. Do it. There'll be other people who like doing the same things. Make friends with them.
Anyway, find things you like doing in life. Do it. There'll be other people who like doing the same things. Make friends with them.
Firstly I've recently started some volunteering work & although most of the volunteers there are either 30+ or 15-20 (& out of them the majority are like 15-18) but it's a start I guess plus I really enjoy what I'm doing & I've also recently joined this Uni film society (& might join some more) which is not too far off where I live.I think that's my best bet right now to make friends my age, although I really need to have confidence to approach people & initiate conversations otherwise I think I still might struggle to form any close relationships with the people there. Thanks anyway
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It's killing me, I can't sleep, I'm alone in a silent empty house every night. You can't deal with loneliness, you just let it take over
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Go on Habbo Hotel or Club Penguin
Original post by Hayley Williams
You sound like me, thought I was the only one. I love my own company though, kind of weird. I don't get lonely. I must be really entertaining
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Yeah I guess it helps if you learn to appreciate your own company! I can often feel almost depressed, like seeing people outside together or photos of Facebook friends with their friends on nights out & wishing I could find more people to go out with. Oh well I still remain positive for the future, I know I'm not a horrible or boring person I just can lack some self-confidence which is my main barrier at the moment 
Original post by NettleRune
Just force yourself to do more things. I love forcing myself to do something I'm terrified of like recently I went skydiving and I have a huge fear of heights. It made me feel invincible! Like I could do conquer anything!
Are you still scared of heights? I tried to jump from a cliff, with a rope, but was so so scared I didn't....
Original post by kumon
Are you still scared of heights? I tried to jump from a cliff, with a rope, but was so so scared I didn't....
Yep I'm still scared unfortunately. But you just have to go for it. It doesn't make you any less scared but makes you braver ha!
Original post by NettleRune
Yep I'm still scared unfortunately. But you just have to go for it. It doesn't make you any less scared but makes you braver ha!
That doesn't help me, I thought you we're going to say I got over it and then I would have done it hahah Original post by kumon That doesn't help me, I thought you we're going to say I got over it and then I would have done it hahah
That doesn't help me, I thought you we're going to say I got over it and then I would have done it hahah Haha honest opinion! It may do for some!
Original post by NettleRune
Haha honest opinion! It may do for some!
You should jump with me at the same time haha
Are you at uni at the moment what are you studying? Original post by NaomiJenkins
Just keep speaking to different people online and join student forums also spend time with your family because that can also help loneliness
also spend time with your family because that can also help lonelinessOriginal post by SA-1
I think a lot of people get confused between loneliness & unhappiness. The term loneliness is used so broadly, some people in relationships consider themselves to be lonely, while some people not in relationships don't. Some people with friends feel lonely, and some do without.. And so on.
Unless you're actually alone and have no one around you then it's probably the reason of feeling as you do. If not then perhaps ask yourself if you feel like this ALL the time?
If you don't, then what are you doing when you aren't feeling this way? Doing a sport? Shopping? Gaming? Gyming? Reading? Writing?
Then ask yourself what you're doing when you feel this? Nothing? Trying too hard to socialise? Looking at how happy people come across on Facebook? watching romcoms?
Just try to analyse how you go about your life, and perhaps fill the times you feel unhappy with the things you actually enjoy doing.. Might help
Unless you're actually alone and have no one around you then it's probably the reason of feeling as you do. If not then perhaps ask yourself if you feel like this ALL the time?
If you don't, then what are you doing when you aren't feeling this way? Doing a sport? Shopping? Gaming? Gyming? Reading? Writing?
Then ask yourself what you're doing when you feel this? Nothing? Trying too hard to socialise? Looking at how happy people come across on Facebook? watching romcoms?
Just try to analyse how you go about your life, and perhaps fill the times you feel unhappy with the things you actually enjoy doing.. Might help
I do try & chat about their life but again sometimes they don't say much in response, take ages to respond or not at all (not necessarily that they don't care, could just be busy & can't read everything that I say aha
). Simply put I need to really push through now & gain a surge of confidence, get out of my comfort zone more (I have a bit but still not enough yet) & then my future will look a whole lot brighter! Quick Reply
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