Click-bait title. Just saying, but I do want to hear what y'all think.
So, over my lifetime there have only been 3 men I wanted to have sex with including those I have only seen via media and don't know IRL. Innumerable women. So 3/hundreds of thousands of men vs thousands and thousands of women. Seems silly to call myself bisexual.
But, I would have sex with 2 of them still and thinking about this earlier I also imagine that I wold enjoy being teased by a male (lots of males, not just the two I "fancy") when bound to the point of actually being able to orgasm from such. I feel this is more of a kink than a sexuality and I feel there is some sort of need to separate them even if they are related.
Also, I imagine lots of guys could orgasm from a machine when bound too. That doesn't make you a machine-sexual. Similarly, I bet some male rape victims orgasm to a male rapist. I imagine some men are able to orgasm to women which they don't actually find attractive. Sometimes the stimulus itself is sufficient to cause orgasm or just an erection or something similar. So this means that being able to obtain sexual pleasure from and being sexually attracted to something are distinct concepts. That's notable I think.
Must a man be bisexual if during an orgy he penetrates another man while already hard from a woman's presence, or even just the idea of an orgy if he would have had no desire to do that if it was just the two men alone? Or is he just extremely horny and very open minded? Or is everyone somewhat bisexual and so it's a bit of a needless question, as a so-called heterosexual man could still do that while being deemed heterosexual?
Then you have the topic of transgender and intersex people. Is sexuality based on the gender of the person you are attracted to or the sex? How do you define gender and how do you define biological sex? If you're attracted to an intersex person then how are you heterosexual still, even if its just one intersex person, or are you something else?
I think personally it would be absolutely ridiculous for me to identify as bisexual as that gives the impression that I actually would enjoy sleeping with guys. For 99.9999999999% of guys that wouldn't be true. So it seems inexplicably inappropriate and making an absolute mockery of the label "bisexual".
I think overall this all just goes to show how pathetic our labels of "sexuality" are in reality. People, especially men, get so insecure about no longer being heterosexual, but I don't even know why. The labels are so needlessly strict when it seems pretty obvious that sexuality is fluid and is affected by social factors as well as genetic ones. I think the taboo on these sorts of discussions needs to be removed so that more funding into research on it is created because I think sexuality is a massively important part of human living. We need to understand it better.