muslim girls and boyfriends

Just to clarify you are a Pakistani Muslim?
If so, I have been there, and done that. My parents found out, and I faced the consequences that most Pakistani people know of. I also know friends who went through hell, and faced terrible consequences of liking someone, and whatever came after that. It depends on who your parents are, and how they would deal with you. I would think about that first. Secondly I would think about how bad and wrong lying to my parents would be. Thirdly I would think about if the guy is worth lying to my parents for. I mean you know nothing about him, you still have a lot of other important things to do, and if you're a Muslim, you must consider your faith. Getting into relationships behind parents back is so stressful and you lose control of your priorities. It isn't a real or proper relationship. I mean most young Pakistani girls get into relationships, get used and abused. In my opinion to like someone our expectations should be high, and when someone meets those high expectations, you'll know he is worth it. Also don't justify doing haram/sin just because other Muslims do.

Your religion / culture (whichever is appropriate here) sounds pathetic and backwards. I feel sorry for you.

Your religion / culture (whichever is appropriate here) sounds pathetic and backwards. I feel sorry for you.

Islam - my religion is not the problem. Islam is about peace, love and family. All the backward cultural practices that go on, and all the rules we have to follow, the fakeness just to keep our families name clean - some how they use Islam, well their idea of Islam to justify it all. It's sad and such a shame.

I really want to go out with someone in sixth form but because of my religion and culture -I definitely stand no chance of even talking to him

People who follow these cultural practices tend to raise children to follow the same practices, and they then teach their children and the cycle continues.

What do you think can break the cycle? Education provided by societies with better practices?

what is the point of doing that? firstly, this might be a factor for you failing your exams. secondly, he might even dump you.. which will hurt

I haven't read the whole thread but I'd just like to say that religion does not define you as a person.
Being a good person is more important than following your religion strictly (I'm a Muslim myself).
Not even the Muslim "priests" (sorry, can't remember the name) follow every Islamic rule. So why should you, a normal teenage girl, bother?

And you should talk to your parents about it, it's not good to hide stuff.

My parents are Muslim and my dad prays 5 times a day, yet he's okay with me having male friends, dating, smoking and wearing the clothes I want to.

We're in the 21st Century so why should we follow rules that were set out for us hundreds and hundreds of years ago? Think about it.

You don't have to live by rules that were made 1400 years ago for people who were alive 1400 years ago, you are a (I hope) free thinking, progressive human being who realises that the times have changed. And also, I can tell you, that that praise from your parents would mean absolutely nothing if you really weren't happy following those ancient rules. Even if they gave it to you. It would be nothing, and it would leave a sour taste in your mouth. We have the ability to think for ourselves for a reason, no?

Islam is a religion that applies to all times at all times. Did the moral laws we have now not apply 1400 years ago too? Was theft legal? Was murder allowed? No. Your argument that "times have changed" is the same nonesense people use to twist their religion so it fits in with their needs & desires.

Keeping things halal with a bf?
Having a bf isn't halal to begin with.

Oh please juss sdfu

Being behind a screen isn't enough, you also use anonymous to tell that to me.

Yes, its no surprise when those who sin in their religion get angry when people point out that they're sinning. If you're not going to follow Islams rules, don't consider yourself a Muslim.

Doesnt matter if im behind a screen or not. Your clearly behind a screen for a start off. A person like you will consider everything as a sin & what Islam rules what rules have you made up what having a boyfriend doesnt make you a muslim? Are you daft fam? Maybe you are.... Keep your long lost lecture to yourself. Let people live the way they want to. why is it concerning you?

Obviously we're going to be behind screens, not like either one of us wants to meet up. You using anonymous is though.

Not everything is a sin but it's clear that Muslims aren't supposed to have relationships before marriage.