I developed a chatting friendship with a guy who once tried it on with me many years ago. Little did I realise I was leading him on. I've totally cut all connection with him now, but I'm so annoyed with my stupidity.
So to rewind. Four years ago when it was our Christmas do, I ended up leaving at the same time as him and on our way to the station he tried it on with me. I ignored his advances.
We worked on the same team for years, it was all guys in the team where I was the only girl, I got on with the blokes ok. He left the company last year but I stupidly kept in touch with him and would confide in him about problems at work or update him on things but I only kept in touch via text.
Last week I realised that the bloke may have other agendas when he rang me at 12am. I was thinking wtf??? I ignored the call. Who on earth rings someone at that time. The only ones who are entitled to ring me at that time are my family and close girl friends.
I should have known this guy had his own agenda, I'm so angry with myself for being stupid. I mean, when he left the company he moved to Birmingham and he kept asking when I was going to visit, but I told him I have no interest in visiting Birmingham, apart from Church activities. I should have said I have no interest in visiting him. Then he kept telling me when he was coming to London, but I've never arranged to meet him when he's in London, because I've had no reason to. I've never really been clear on whether he tells other colleagues when he's visiting London, or whether he only tells me.
Also, when he moved from the company, he put me in touch with one of his new colleagues who I have nothing in common with, saying he was trying to play Cupid. It must have been a smokescreen. Funny enough he wasn't keen on me getting in touch with one of his other new colleagues, who from his linkedin profile I actually felt I had more common ground with.
To make matters worse, the guy has a wife and kids and he's over 12 years older than me. I also know he's a perv because I used to hear him and the other blokes having really crude conversations.
I feel so violated, but I realise it's my stupidity. I just hope me cutting him off is a strong message to him. I don't know how one can be so delusional. Perhaps I'm the delusional one who believes that people of the opposite sex can just be friends.