Why did I make this trans guy uncomfortable by dressing more masculine?

I was at out of the box group last Tuesday. I got a hair cut. And didn't wear much make up and wore jeans and a shirt. I have a pretty ambiguous facial appearance and build but still attractive. Among them im gay so I don't really think I'm a threat since they're all straight so I don't really get his problem. He was really nice before when I looked more feminine.i have been going to this group for a long time. They always assumed I was born male when I dressed really feminine. I dressed really feminine because I was scared. And my body shape and face don't look that feminine it just looks like I wear make up and have "fake" boobs. But The people there the transmen couldn't tell me from the trans women there. I may be intersex since I have symptoms of an intersex condition. I was overcompensating for the fact that I was there i always liked appearing to be the straight girl. Anyhow it's like a sense of anger coming from one person in the group almost. For one he'd randomly say stuff like my hair isn't real when it was obvious I had my hair cut. It's like only 4 inches long now. And then went to to make a joke about my being so small because I was talking about body types and cravings. It was like they were trying to insult my "manhood" but I don't get why now? When previously I was there for like the past few weeks? He takes a lot of T like the most he can oersonally and looks like a passable man. Just gayish sounding. I still look like a girl who is more masculine but pretty and petit still. I have high testosterone levels naturally it's why I have big feet a deep voice a not so feminine face and the coveted T shape men want to have and other stuff I don't really notice because I'm used to it. People always make jokes though on whether I'm a boy or a girl if I am not making an effort to look feminine. What I don't get is why someone has it together be upset at someone who isn't even on hormones? I don't get it? But ever since I started dressing more masculine that person has seemed to act as if they're threatened? I'm pre everything probably will be my whole life. I don't what his problem is?

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

Original post by Justadude14

I'm really confused about your sexuality... Like I can not conclude whether you are a boy or a girl, or gay or trans from your paragraph :s-smilie:

wat?

punch him. serves him right for being judgemental

Reply 4

Justadude14

Original post by Anonymous

I'm really confused about your sexuality... Like I can not conclude whether you are a boy or a girl, or gay or trans from your paragraph :s-smilie:

I'm attracted to men.

It was odd I was told when my mom gave birth and afterwards asking is it a boy or girl. My aunt said its a boy then someone said I was a girl. I was reared female. My genitals down there look female except I have a big clit. But it's not that obvious only when I shave. So my sex is supposed to be female just with more testosterone. I hope because I want to get pregnant and have kids later on.

I go to a group for transgender people 1-2 times a week. I have a lot of qualities similar to the trans guys. I am transgender as well but I have doubts about it which is why I don't take hormones. The people there assumed I was born male and a transwoman because I dressed feminine and have very few natural feminine features. Along with the fact that I like men.

This guy at group that is transgender ftm seems to have lashed out at me for no reason and I don't what his problem is? As if he's threatened when I am not even really transitioning?

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Reply 5

Justadude14

Original post by High Stakes

wat?

What are you confused about?

Reply 6

High Stakes

Original post by Justadude14

What are you confused about?

Could you like bullet point your story because I can't seem to grasp what you are. No need to beat around the bush, just brief points describing the sequence of events that you've made a dissertation on here.

Reply 7

Justadude14

Original post by BobbyBoy12345

punch him. serves him right for being judgemental

I can't I'll get kicked out lol

Reply 8

Justadude14

Original post by High Stakes

I did in my second post.

I'm attracted to men.

I was born female but there are things about me that are physically masculine.

I've been going to this support group for transgender people 1-2 times a week.

They thought I was a transwoman at first because I dressed very feminine and assumed I was born female due to my shape deep voice and face other characteristics.

I dressed more masculine last Tuesday and one of the transmen I have seen before reacted negatively when previously he didn't seem to act this way at all.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 9

BullViagra

gender has become really a messy subject these days

what happened to the good old days when there were just 2

Reply 10

Justadude14

Original post by BullViagra

gender has become really a messy subject these days

what happened to the good old days when there were just 2

I'm only talking about 2. Im just talking about sex and gender which are two different things. I don't really identify with a gender just sex which is female. The way I am doesn't make me more a man it just makes me.

I am what they call transgender. But I don't feel I need to change to please anyone that includes society. So I embrace who I am and my sex instead of just one.

But the topic is more on why someone would act this way when I'm not even seeking hormones? I mean I won't likely ever end up like him so I don't get it.