Hey, so I'm in my early 20s, I "came out" when I was 17, and I have been "dating" since I was 18, but I have only ever dated 4 people, and I've never been past the fourth date.I wouldn't particularly say I was picky in any way (not to say I'd go with just anyone), but I try and go for guys who aren't a waste of time, yet somehow I always end up with that. I live in Glasgow, and I'd say that the gay community is quite big, but I don't know how to meet a 'normal' gay - by normal, I mean one who is somewhat mature and doesn't just want to have sex with any guy he sees, which appears to be the stereotypical type and the one I usually bump into.
I use dating sites, as it appears to be the modern thing to do now. But I genuinely feel that I'm getting nothing from this. I've been to a gay bar once (AXM), like I said i'm not picky, but the place was filled with really greasy, slutty, obnoxious guys, it was extremely off-putting. I've heard of another gay bar called Polo, but I've heard that it can be quite a judgmental place, on a completely opposite end of the spectrum from AXM.
How do I meet people? I don't quite think the whole "go to a library/coffee shop/gym and strike up a conversation" really works anymore. Hopefully people could give me their input, and hopefully it will help people in a similar position to me.