Why hasn't he asked me out!? Is it bad if I ask him?

Maybe give it a few more days and if he hasn't asked by then, then ask him


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If he hasn't got the balls to ask you then, I wouldn't bother yourself. 'A few years'?! Perhaps give him a hint

If you don't ask you'll never know and will probably beat yourself up for a long time. Don't be scared of rejection or it will follow you your whole life.

Ask him about it! Find out what he wants and go from there, he might not realise you want to be with him.

It's all about communication

Give it time then. Don't girls have ways of dropping hints?

Maybe he's just shy haha, or doesn't want to make things awkward with your brother!

Not all relationships start "formally" with dates and asking out... sometimes they just start and progress naturally... it kind of sounds like thats whats happening here. Don't get too hung up on the formalities of whos asking who out or going on dates, try just starting a conversation about what happened a few weeks ago and at the weekend and ask/talk about what you both want moving forward.

IMO, people get too hung up and feel under too much pressure about who asks who out and dates and when you're "officially" together... you can just allow it to be a natural progession. You've known each other a long time, so just try talking to each other like normal.

Then you could just remind him, if he's already asked you. I wouldn't try the subtle approach or else the problem will still arise and he'll regret not asking again as it were, just say 'when are we going/are you looking forward to going'? or something

Hey guys,

I have known this lad for a few years and he is good friends with my older brother and his friends. Since around christmas I have kept seeing him and one particular friend on nights out and we will stop and chat. A few weeks ago it ended up just me and him and we ended up kissing and since then messaging via Facebook.

Then this weekend I saw him out again wth the same friend he is usually with and we ended up going back to this friends house for drinks, along with my friend (4 of us in total). All night he held my hand and we kissed, and he told my friend he liked me and wouldn't mess me about and that he would take me out.

Anyway, he ended up back at my house later that night and we slept together. He was really sweet and even said he wished he didn't have to go home and even mentioned a next time and so on.

Since then though he hasn't asked me out (I know it's only been a few days but I know many girls who get asked out straight away!). We have spoke via Facebook but it's not the constant flow of messages which I was used to with the last guy I was seeing where we would text all day.

Am I being too impatient? I really like him but I am getting mixed signals as to whether he likes me back or not. I mentioned going out as a joke (to the place he told my friend he would take me) and he said he's skint at the moment but made a joke out of it. I know he lost money last week at Cheltenham races lol so he is genuine, but I am just being messed around?

Would I look desperate to ask him? What if he says no!

Like I said, he is good friends with my older brother (who knows nothing about us together!)

I just want him to ask me out :/

thank you like I said though, we don't text all day every day which is something I was so used to with the guy I was previously seeing. I know I shouldn't compare but I don't really have much experience to go from really!

Maybe I will just keep the convo flowing this week and see what happens. he gets paid this weekend haha!

It's funny, I was in the same situation as u about 4-5 months ago, I kept seeing one of my brother's football teammates on nights out, and we chatted a lot. Any way one night we kissed but I went home as normal, then he sent me a message a few days after. However it wasn't for a date but just to see each other again, we have now been dating for 4 months ! I think every relationship works differently, you could either be patient and wait for him to text (which he probably will) or you could just send him a laid back message asking him if he wants to meet up (doesn't have to be a proper date)

Realistically... most people don't have time to be texting all day every day... by the sounds of it he works (gets paid this weekend) so you can't really be texting while working...

Before I was living with my partner, we'd talk most days (call or text... sometimes we'd have 6 hour phone convos, but occasionally, we'd have a day where we didn't talk and that was fine. Each relationship has its own dynamic and you really can't compare one to another. What is really important in all relationships is that you're communicating regularly and effectively.

aww yeah I aren't looking for a "date" as such, just seeing him would be nice but I'm waiting to be asked lol that's why the money thing threw me as I'd just be happy to go to his house or for a drive or whatever! I guess all I can do is wait and then if he still doesn't ask I should say does he wanna meet. does it look daft to say that I didn't dare ask, or shall I just have the confidence to say it outright :/ im nervous coz I really like him!