Girls, would you ever propose to the guy ?

Hoping I won't get inequality hate for this, but I'd much rather wait for the guy. My boyfriend is very traditional, and would probably therefore reject me if I asked. Also, being quite a 'girly' girl, I love the idea of him planning the perfect romantic evening etc good for the girls who do it though, if it's right for their relationship then why not?

Nothing wrong with tradition. So you agree that he is King of the castle and Lord of the manor?

Aha, hmm, not so sure about that but so long as I can be queen we'll go with it

My mum did, but on 29 February, so make of that what you will.

I read about that, it's basically a loophole. What kind of person is she? Does she respect the man as Lord of the manor or does she pick and choose her rights and responsibilities like today's girls?

Ah, yes, gender roles, the conundrum of the modern, liberated woman. When asked if they support equality or traditional roles, most will give you the same answer :

Surely it is better to not have a fixed view on "gender roles"? I think it depends on circumstances, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Some things, human rights violations, we can say are wrong- but saying that a man should propose to a woman doesn't seem like a huge inequality problem. That's why you can't say yes or no

Surely it is better to not have a fixed view on "gender roles"? I think it depends on circumstances, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Some things, human rights violations, we can say are wrong- but saying that a man should propose to a woman doesn't seem like a huge inequality problem. That's why you can't say yes or no

I would personally wait for the guy to do it. I wouldn't drop hints though, I would wait to see how long it took him and would be interested to see when he personally felt it was right. My bf waited 4 years to ask me.

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still sort of seems like a contradiction of principles though, if we're talking about fair equality (which is "fixed" in terms of its logical suggestions) vs "equitable" inequality (for one gender over another; it used to be in favour of men but it now seems to be for women). kind of reminds me about how girls want equal pay/wages yet still expect the guy in the relationship to pay for most things

But you are still expecting him to be the initiator, the decision maker, the actor in your relationship. That is very much part of the traditional male gender role. What other aspects in your relationship do you see as being determined by gender?

We don't actively think about it, but as I said previously, he is very traditional. I wouldn't say that he is always the decision maker, and in fact we usually make decisions together so I don't know if "determined" is the right word really.