Crush rejects me - Advice!

Basically, about a week ago, I finally bucked up the courage to ask my crush. I have had a major crush on this girl for a whole year: she was perfect in mind (sounds pathetic, i know). Basically, after a 2 months of talking to her on FB, i finally asked her out (i am a shy person irl, i never bucked up the courage to talk to her face to face... Hence, the rejection) - I don't have a lot of confidence when it comes to girls really... I never have and never will. Anyway, lets get to the main point. I made this thread to get advice. Since the ordeal, i have been upset about it and beating myself up over it. Can someone give me some advice on how to deal with my emotions please?

Distract yourself from thinking about her by doing something you like e.g. sports or video games. I'd say to try and not communicate too much with her: it would make it easier to forget about her.

I flirted with loads of women and got loads of noods. I felt like a pimp which increased my confidence and I got over the original girl easily after that.

Communication has totally stopped since she rejected me.

Basically, about a week ago, I finally bucked up the courage to ask my crush. I have had a major crush on this girl for a whole year: she was perfect in mind (sounds pathetic, i know). Basically, after a 2 months of talking to her on FB, i finally asked her out (i am a shy person irl, i never bucked up the courage to talk to her face to face... Hence, the rejection) - I don't have a lot of confidence when it comes to girls really... I never have and never will. Anyway, lets get to the main point. I made this thread to get advice. Since the ordeal, i have been upset about it and beating myself up over it. Can someone give me some advice on how to deal with my emotions please?

Hi there OP, the same thing happened to me last week. I, too, after liking my crush for about two years, finally took the courage to confess...and I was rejected (though I am more towards wanting to let my crush know about how I feel rather than anticipating an outcome if you get what I mean). You can pm me if you need someone to talk to, though I don't know if I could be of any help. Cheer up!

Would definitely agree with kkboyk in terms of using distractions. This is slightly different, but I was really sad today, and I noticed how much of an effect it had when I stopped dwelling on my thoughts and just looked at some funny video on youtube. You'd be surprised.

She isn't the one for you if she can't see what a nice person you actually are. But on the other hand you can't blame her if u never really talked face to face.. There not only has to be an emotional connection but also a physical one as well so since you never interacted with her in person she had no attraction for you thus she said no to going out. It's not even your fault really other than the fact that you didn't let her to get to know you and asked her out too quickly. If I were you I'd leave it for a while and try not too be too hard on yourself. Just consider it a lesson learnt and move on.

flirt with her best friend

No.

It may sound a bit patronizing, but after a certain period of time (especially years later) this whole story will seem to be a funny, light memory. Just try to reflect on what you have learned from this, what you'd do differently the next time, and how you actually felt when asking her out.

I don't want to play the shrink here, so it's just a personal view. You may want to acknowledge/embrace your feelings and just face them thinking, "that's me, those are my feelings, there's nothing I can do about them, I'm just a person like everyone else, and this doesn't just happen to me, it's completely normal". And try to let go of the embarrassment that you might feel (apologies if this is not the case). Just think that you're happy to acknowledge the sense of embarrassment. Once you don't have anything to hide from yourself, there shouldn't be any more going 'lower'.

This should hopefully help with seeing the respective girl on Monday, as you mentioned. Just remember, that's you, you've been brave enough to make the move, it's completely normal, and you're not denying anything from yourself.

You don't have to set your goals on her best friend? You just have to make her a bit jealous which might make her reconsider

I find it extremely difficult to socialize with people face to face. It's so hard to do so. I have Aspergers - which causes me to be more anti-socialize than most people - I don't mean to be shy or nervous. I struggle massively with social interaction and find them hard. I really like this girl and i really don't know how to express myself to her. I really don't have experience in doing so and having Asperger's makes it harder.

Well I guess ur in a slightly more difficult situation then. However, I still don't think you shld let it get you down like this. At least you found the courage to ask her out, that's a massive step in the right direction! Next time try to interact more with a girl before you ask her out...if u can do it online then why not in person? Anyway I always believe that there is someone for everyone and if she wasn't it then someone else will be you just have to find her, and don't be afraid!!!