So Unhappy.. help/advice needed!

Hello,

I would just like to say I was in almost the EXACT same position last year when living with my so called 'housemates'.

Don't give up, all is not lost and it will get better. But I can seriously understand how **** and trapped you must feel. Last year I also made the stupid mistake of signing on for another year when they said they would 'help me and support me, won't leave me out anymore...blablabla' (utter bull****, it got worse).

Your next step now is to try everything in your power to get out the contract. Unfortunately landlords are greedy and couldn't give a **** about your personal problems as long as you are lining their pockets. And there is nothing you can do about it as you signed the contract....I found that out the hard way.

To get out your contract: - Firstly, go to your student support section and book an appointment with an advisor and tell them everything. They may even refer you to a solicitor as sometimes the uni may have a partnership with a local solicitor so you can have some free advice from a professional. I did this but in the end I didn't end up having to go down this route.

What is your relationship with your landlord like?
Mine was a complete knob-head and bullied me so I recorded all the emails and kept them for the solicitor...which really gave me the upper hand.
The whole legal path is a difficult one and I am glad I didn't end up going down that path. Best to keep this option as a last resort, but it is always best to be prepared.

Secondly, you can try find someone to take over your contract. I did this. It's not a guarantee but it is the better option, less stress too.

Advertise your room EVERYWHERE. Especially Facebook page/groups associated with your uni. Also post out flyers and ask your landlord to advertise it on their website too.
They have to anyway (my uni advisor made sure they did by spamming them with calls).


Uni should be fun, and the so called friends I lived with ruined my entire 2nd year. Not only that but I was going through personal turmoil,in and out of hospital, none of which they cared about or supported me.
They ignored me, left me out, incredibly disruptive when I worked. And did stupid little school girl pranks.
Also tried to ruin my relationship and accused my boyfriend of being abusive and controlling, and told everyone in our social circle lies about me.

This all ended up with me spiraling into a deep depression - of which I will not go into details about because I am ashamed of what I did.
I never felt so alone in my life, my grades suffered, my health suffered and so did my social life.
It got to the point I couldn't leave my room and I gained 4 stone.

Please do not let them do this to you. I don't know if it has already been suggested but please see a Councillor and a doctor if you feel like you need extra help. (Like anti-depressants).

Try joining a club or gain a new hobby, you will meet new people there, and slowly you will finally feel the old you come back, bit by bit.

I did this and over a year on I am much better, with my own place, getting fantastic grades and I have even secured a job for when I graduate. Move on up on the world, you are better than these people.
And they can go **** themselves...make sure to tell them that when you leave

And finally -
You are not alone.

Sorry about the long reply!

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This was incredibly helpful. I can't express how confident I feel about things now. I'm so sorry you had to go through it as well but at least you got out of it and you're doing so well for yourself. I truly did feel like I was the only person going through this so it was incredibly nice of you to open up. Hopefully this can help others too.

Thank you so much!