Weak feminised men who were taught by their single mummies that women want soft gentle friends before romance.
If you like a girl you make it obvious and ask her out quickly, if she is into she'll say yes, if not she will likely try to keep you as a friend for the attention and ego boost. She'll never be with you, so stop wasting time and try another girl. If a woman isn't having sex with you she is probably a waste of time, men make better friends for other men.