I've been with my boyfriend just over three months and we have sex once or twice a week. He's my first. I'd say about half of the times we've done it I've got cystitis-like symptoms. Twice I've had full blown cystitis which required antibiotics and lasted about five days.
We used to use condoms - now I have the coil, so we do it without. I get the cystitis both with and without. Lately I've just been getting symptoms for 24 hours ish, so I'm wondering if it's more a matter of being bruised than anything else. He's rough during sex and when he fingers me - but I require a fair amount of stimulation to get off, so I can't really complain about it, but I'm wondering if I'm not 'ready' enough for him? He's only average in size though.
The only times I can think of when I've not had symptoms is either when he's spent a while doing oral/foreplay or when we've had sex whilst I'm bleeding, so there's a natural lubrication. I'm therefore thinking that it's a lubrication issue.
I'm thinking about buying some lube and asking him to use it, but I don't want to offend him. I'm worried that he'll think he's not enough if I suggest bringing lube into the mix as he's quite an insecure bf. But sometimes foreplay is none existant and as soon as he gets hard he'll be thrusting inside of me. Like I said, don't want to hurt his feelings, but I can't carry on with this agony! It brings me to tears.
Do most guys mind using lube?