How do Muslims control their sexual desires?

In Islam you are not allowed to date or even speak on friendly terms to a girl you like unless you intend to marry them never mind have sex with them, so how then would you control natural sexual desires and natural longing for companionship with the opposite sex, etc?

Sure non-Muslims have desires too, for example we might want to sleep with one someone who doesn't want to sleep with us, etc and we respect that and have self-discipline and such things, but in Islam you are not even allowed to 'fancy' a girl or find a guy attractive or anything unless you intend to marry them. And furthermore, how would you know if you want to marry someone or not unless you have a chance to know what they are like first. The only way to do that is by dating or keeping in touch as close friends, surely?

I hate arranged marriages it's not really based on love but pressure from your family, because the majority of the time the parents force the child to get married at a certain age even though their child may not be mentally ready or mature enough for marriage but certain cultures are very conservative and believe that their child should marry when they reach a certain age.

It's ridiculous what age some cultures consider to be "late" for marriage

Wrong wrong wrong wrong

Of course you are allowed to fancy someone, but you cannot act on your desires in a haraam fashion

With marriage, you get to know da girl, like good and proper for months, maybe even years before marrying her. You just chill with her but have like her dad around here and there

To diminish your desires you fast. That is all. It kills your desires and it teaches you how to restrain yourself

You are restraining yourself from eating so you can restrain yourself from your sexual desires

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Wrong wrong wrong wrong

Of course you are allowed to fancy someone, but you cannot act on your desires in a haraam fashion

With marriage, you get to know da girl, like good and proper for months, maybe even years before marrying her. You just chill with her but have like her dad around here and there

To diminish your desires you fast. That is all. It kills your desires and it teaches you how to restrain yourself

You are restraining yourself from eating so you can restrain yourself from your sexual desires

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Wrong wrong wrong wrong

Of course you are allowed to fancy someone, but you cannot act on your desires in a haraam fashion

With marriage, you get to know da girl, like good and proper for months, maybe even years before marrying her. You just chill with her but have like her dad around here and there

To diminish your desires you fast. That is all. It kills your desires and it teaches you how to restrain yourself

You are restraining yourself from eating so you can restrain yourself from your sexual desires

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We keep ourselves busy by reading Quran, fasting etc.

. That is all. It kills your desires and it teaches you how to restrain yourself

You are restraining yourself from eating so you can restrain yourself from your sexual desires

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Wrong wrong wrong wrong

Of course you are allowed to fancy someone, but you cannot act on your desires in a haraam fashion

With marriage, you get to know da girl, like good and proper for months, maybe even years before marrying her. You just chill with her but have like her dad around here and there

To diminish your desires you fast. That is all. It kills your desires and it teaches you how to restrain yourself

You are restraining yourself from eating so you can restrain yourself from your sexual desires

Posted from TSR Mobile

Not according to any Islamic forum, if you look in the relationship section any question about 'fancying' someone, particularly a non-Muslim is frowned up and the person is made to feel guilty 'Sister which is more important to you your 'feelings' for this kuffar or your love of Allah' are the type of responses from Muslims any time someone talks about liking someone or wanting to date someone. They also say that a male and female can't be friends and they can't even shake each others hands!

It is fine to like someone, yes. But liking someone doesnt mean you have to go up to them and shake their hands, be friends with them, date them etc

That is haraam.

So basically let's say theres this girl i like/fancy in my chemistry class. As long as i dont do anything inappropriate like stare at her, touch her unnecessarily etc then all is good

I should just lower my gaze, and if im interested in pursuing this chick, i approach her guardians
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It is fine to like someone, yes. But liking someone doesnt mean you have to go up to them and shake their hands, be friends with them, date them etc

That is haraam.

So basically let's say theres this girl i like/fancy in my chemistry class. As long as i dont do anything inappropriate like stare at her, touch her unnecessarily etc then all is good

I should just lower my gaze, and if im interested in pursuing this chick, i approach her guardians
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Then how would you approach the guardians without interacting with the girl first?

This sounds really dysfunctional, what do you stalk her home behind a tree and await her parents to exit then you make your move like a ninja?

Its tough, but I just try my best to just go through it. In my life, I exercise alot and eat healthy, which increases my Sx-Drive. But I have to do what I gotta do - exercise is my hobby. Im 20 right now. My parents told me that in a couple of years, I'll hopefully be married after finishing uni, bettering myself and finding a job. So until then, I just keep myself busy, pray, and hope for the best.

Isn't that just oppressive, all that high testosterone, and you're not allowed to interact with girls, why put up a barrier?

Girls are human beings this is human nature to want to socialise with another human is natural let alone the opposite sex, why suppress what come naturally to you?